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AIBU?

To have completely blown up at 'd'h?

75 replies

olibeansmummy · 02/10/2011 22:15

Just a rant really but he's been sooo unhelpful this weekend I've come to the end of my tether.

On Saturday I got up with ds while he had a lie in but he said I could have one the next day.

Then he announced football was on and what was I doing with ds? Then he gave me a list of errands to do while I was out with him.

When I got back he was on the new f1 game and there he stayed until after tea when I told him he HAD to give ds SOME attention that day ( the attention involved putting toy story on for him... ).

Then he refused to turn the tv off in the bedroom til after match of the day and just before we went to sleep announced that I was no longer having a lie in ( no point arguing he'd just not get up which isn't fair on ds).

Ds was sick when coughing in the night and the best he could do to help was yell at me to clean it up before it got on the mattress, when I was trying to comfort ds and clean him up, then go back to bed .

He refused to come to church so I had to deal with ds by myself. And guess what he did... Yes x box .

I've done all the cooking and he's taken to asking for things by copying 2 year old ds ie. ' juice', 'brew' ( although ds can now manage to ask better than this) and he'll keep going on and on til I give in an do it.... Everytime he wants something.

He hasn't lifted a finger all weekend and has hardly acknowledged ds :( so when he demanded a brew just now I went mental at him and now HE'S not talking to ME!!

Now I know it's nit the AIBU of the century but just...... Arghhhhhhhh!

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olibeansmummy · 02/10/2011 22:15

Arghh that's very long sorry

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Dawndonna · 02/10/2011 22:17

Look on the bright side, if he's not talking to you, he can't demand juice or a brew!
And no, yanbu, lazy sod!

TheOriginalNutcracker · 02/10/2011 22:17

He is being a twat, but you are being daft for doing things for him which he is capable of doing himself.

snoopdogg · 02/10/2011 22:19

Leave the fucker

Nanny0gg · 02/10/2011 22:19

You admit that you give in.
Therein lies the problem...

Jackstini · 02/10/2011 22:20

Where do you start?!
Selfish, ignorant, lazy, bad mannered, shocking example to ds, immature...

Just stop doing anything for him - sort yourself & ds out.

Does he have any good points?

flicktheswitch · 02/10/2011 22:20

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mummymccar · 02/10/2011 22:22

YANBU. If he wants to act like a child them treat him like one. Put him on a 'time out', confiscate his X-Box and other 'toys', explain to him why his behaviour has been unacceptable and put him on the naughty step (make him sleep on the couch).
You shouldn't have to deal with two little boys!

hester · 02/10/2011 22:22

You really need to review the deal you've got with this guy. Why are you allowing this to happen?

Catsdontcare · 02/10/2011 22:22

Stop being a door mat

chicletteeth · 02/10/2011 22:23

Is this a joke?
A grown man says 'juice' to his wife when he wants a drink?
And you actually do it?

If you allow this, he'll do it. Simple as that. It doesn't make it right, but if this behaviour gets him the response he wants, why wouldn't he continue?

Sort yourself out.

bushymcbush · 02/10/2011 22:23

He sounds awful. Sorry.

Twattingcuntybollocks · 02/10/2011 22:23

YANBU to have blown up at him. YABU to give in to his demands for a 'brew' or 'juice'

I am honestly that there are people out there that treat their partners like that. I am probably naive though or have a fab DH.

ILoatheMickeyMouseClubhouse · 02/10/2011 22:23

He sounds a nightmare, in fact his behaviour sounds downright awful and not something I could put up with from my husband. First of all I would stop doing anything for him. Let him knock himself out saying "juice" or whatever, don't give in to him. Let him do his own washing, cooking etc.

Then have a long hard think about whether you want to remain in this relationship with this lazy arse

cheeseandmarmitesandwich · 02/10/2011 22:24

He is a twat! But you sound like a bit of a pushover, sorry.

cheeseandmarmitesandwich · 02/10/2011 22:24

He is a twat! But you sound like a bit of a pushover, sorry.

Bogeyface · 02/10/2011 22:25

My first thought on that was "What a prick!"

Seriously, he just shouts "beer......beer.....beer" at you?

He is doing this because you let him. Remove the "Welcome" mat from your head and refuse to be his slave anymore. I am shocked that you allow this to happen!

TheEarlOfDoncaster1963 · 02/10/2011 22:29

"he announced you were not getting a lie-in"??? W.T.F? What was his reason? That would be a deal-breaker for me, sorry - my once a week lie-in is the only thing that keeps me sane and to be told I wasn't getting it for any reason other than serious illness or emergency (and presumably it was only because he's a lazy arse and couldn't be bothered to get up) would make my blood boil.

What exactly are you getting out of this relationship? Go on strike - sort yourself and your DS out and leave him to sort his own clothes/food/etc out.

snoopdogg · 02/10/2011 22:29

See, you come on here to have a bit of a vent and end up having your relationship picked apart - by a group of thoughtful, prescient posters - think on and, as I say leave the fucker sit him down and have a serious chat about the roles in your relationship.

AuntiePickleBottom · 02/10/2011 22:30

i been there, so i cut the wire to the playstation power cable.

he went up the wall that i damaged his precious computer......i hit back and said he was damaging something that was not so easy to replace...like our son and he either stepped up and became a father or i would walk out taking ds with me and he could spent 24/7 on the computer.

life changed from then on :)

workshy · 02/10/2011 22:31

my ex used to walk through the kitchen, sit down and then say 'drink' and I used to get up and get him one because the moods etc weren't worth not doing it (fairly sure this is a form of bullying)

I drew the line whe he started getting into bed and saying 'blow job' and fully expected one!

he is behaving like a pratt, he won't stop it will only get worse

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SarahLundsredJumper · 02/10/2011 22:38

Your DH says "juice" or "Brew" and you just trot off and get it

toddlerama · 02/10/2011 22:39

workshy that is appalling! How does someone become so entitled and rude!? OP, do something about this asap. Stare blankly at him when he asks anything of you without a 'please'. As for the lie-in, reciprocate.

workshy · 02/10/2011 22:40

I blame his mother!

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