im really looking for help to deal with a situation i face with my MIL. She owns two dogs that are very volitile. One doesnt like being touched around the collar and his ears pulled and has been known to growl, bite and snap at his owner. The other dog wants to be top dog and has gone hammer and tong with the other dog over basically jealousy issues. MIL treats them like children, sits them on her knee and cant see how bad they are. I have made it clear from pregnancy how i feel about them and that they are a risk to my child. These have constantly been downplayed and ignored at times. So much so that myself and husband have stopped taking my son over there. this has caused massive problems in itself. However I decided that it had been long enough and thought maybe MIL had got the message re the dogs. So i allowed MIL to babysit my son at hers but she was told the dog gate had to be up. Myself and husband go to pick up my son and dogs are out and running around. When challenged she said a long the lines of "well they were ignoring esach other so i thought i'd let them out". I was so angry, but as usual she makes me feel like i cant even say anything even when its my son's safety! I was so upset i was physically shaking with anger but still we drove off. Meanwhile I have been thinking about this and feel i cannot trust her to do as i ask. and it worries me so much that my son will pull an ear and the next thing i know im getting a call i dont want to hear. My MIL has made a war out of this for the last 2 years. Its as if she cant put her ego away for the safety of her own grandchild.
How do I handle this, I desperately need some advice? Especially as its now causing massive problems in our marriage, Im so angry I could cut her right out but I dont want to do that as my son has a lovely relationship with her even if I dont! Help!
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Dogs to be seperated from my son as they have history of being volitile
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Flumaxed · 01/10/2011 22:47
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