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to 'only' give my Mum flowers for her birthday.

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Helo Sat 01-Oct-11 20:41:04

My mum's birthday is on Friday, we live 2 hours away and I can't get to visit my parents for the next few weeks, so I can't take her out for a meal.

She has everything she wants and more disposable income than me so buying for her is tricky. I asked my Dad and he had no ideas for himself, let alone me!

So I have ordered her a bouquet to be delivered on her birthday, I chose a flower she loves and colours that match the decoration in the living room, and the woman said it would be a decent size. It is from the florist that did my wedding so I know the flowers will be lovely.

But it seems so weird sending her something that is not very long lasting and seems strangely impersonal. Normally I would buy her a small bunch and give her a present but like I say I am out of ideas this year!

So AIBU to just send a bouquet?

worraliberty Sat 01-Oct-11 20:42:29

Not at all

It's the thought that counts, I'm sure she'll be thrilled

SheCutOffTheirTails Sat 01-Oct-11 20:42:30

YANBU

flowers aren't impersonal, particularly if you have picked a flower you know she loves.

troisgarcons Sat 01-Oct-11 20:44:30

No, I like flowers! I woud be over joyed with flowers!

But! If you looked a little deeper into the internet you might have found a magazine subscription she liked; maybe arranged for a more longstanding plant to be delivered; go to Amazon and send her a book ..... only you know what your mum likes .....

Helo Sat 01-Oct-11 21:00:07

She has 3 magazine subscriptions already (one from me (that I renew on Mother's Day, one from my Dad and one she organised herself!), she only reads really trashy books she tends to buy at Tesco or get from the library, she doesn't enjoy cooking so no recipe books etc. So hard!

pozzled Sat 01-Oct-11 21:04:07

I think flowers are a lovely gift. It does depend on the person though, is your mum the 'happy you remembered' type or the 'takes offence at anything' type?

fedupofnamechanging Sat 01-Oct-11 21:31:18

I think flowers are lovely.

AgentZigzag Sat 01-Oct-11 21:36:19

Flowers are like chocs as a gift, most people think they're just a waste and would rather get something that lasts longer, but they're both things that are brilliant to get.

Thorntons mmmmm

Waswondering Sat 01-Oct-11 21:40:32

Lovely ... I think the door bell ringing and someone standing there with a beautiful bouquet is a lovely gift.

If you wanted something else, and personal - is there a nice hotel between your homes, say an hour from each, that you could arrange to take her to for afternoon tea one day in the near future for her birthday? It can be such a lovely, decadent treat, a chance for you both to dress up and just enjoy being together?

(She says, as my mum and I have just started doing this for our birthdays and it's really lovely - my mum is utterly impossible to buy for too!)

Meteorite Sat 01-Oct-11 21:43:27

I would love to receive a bouquet as a gift. I wouldn't think "where's the rest of my present?"!

GwendolineMaryLacey Sat 01-Oct-11 21:44:37

For the first time ever this year I didn't get my mother anything. Despite intense questioning she categorically stated there was nothing she wanted and if you value your life you don't just 'surprise' my mother, she gives presents back! She's not big on flowers.

So, aside from a promise to get her something as soon as she thought of it, she got nothing. Felt very odd.

RebelFromTheWaistDown Sat 01-Oct-11 21:47:27

YANBU. Flowers and chocolates and my favourite perfumes are the only presents that I don't have to pretend to like.

Maryz Sat 01-Oct-11 21:56:44

I gave my mum a card last year (and made the kids sign it). I also told them to send her a text each.

We are a bit broke and mum and dad are comfortable, so it seems a bit mad for me to spend money on things she doesn't want. Anything she wants she buys for herself.

Flowers wouldn't suit her (she likes her garden and thinks it's a sin to cut flowers) and chocolates are no good as she has high cholesterol and my dad is diabetic, so really they are a disaster present-wise.

Christmas will be a bit difficult too. I'm thinking of a bar of diabetic chocolate and a bottle of wine grin.

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