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To have a word with this woman ?

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Kormachameleon Fri 30-Sep-11 16:31:03

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LineRunner Fri 30-Sep-11 16:33:04

How well do you know her? Is it first-hand or second-hand?

dippywhentired Fri 30-Sep-11 16:33:42

What does your husband say about it?

worraliberty Fri 30-Sep-11 16:33:56

I was kind of with you til your last I'm just confused confused

Why have a word with her if it bothers you and not your Husband?

3littlefrogs Fri 30-Sep-11 16:34:00

She sounds very odd, and stalkerish.

Why is your husband encouraging her?

amistillsexy Fri 30-Sep-11 16:34:17

I would not say a word to your Dh of how you feel, and suggest you invite her over for dinner one evening.

Then invite all your best mates and their partners and make sure they all tell lots of stories of you and DH and what a great couple you are, how loving you both are,a dn how he'd do anything for you, etc.

Leave her on no doubt at all that you are DH's 'kindred spirit' (FFS!) and she will simply be his employee.

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer!

GypsyMoth Fri 30-Sep-11 16:34:21

Well I think you need to make your views known.... Somehow!

ForYourDreamsAreChina Fri 30-Sep-11 16:34:40

It's your husband you need to tell, not her.

MurunBuchstansangur Fri 30-Sep-11 16:34:41

of course it is borne of jealousy and mistrust, or you wouldn't have a problem, would you?

YABU to talk to her.

Talk to your husband, and tell him you don't like it, and don't like her.

ThePumpkinKing Fri 30-Sep-11 16:35:01

If you really have no conercns about your husband, then what's the problem?

GandTiceandaslice Fri 30-Sep-11 16:35:19

I'm having DeJa Vous. I feel like I've read the OP before!

Sorry, I have no useful advise!

StrandedBear Fri 30-Sep-11 16:35:35

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cjbartlett Fri 30-Sep-11 16:36:32

Is your husband very naive?

dippywhentired Fri 30-Sep-11 16:36:54

I would definitely be talking to DH first, before confronting her.

ForYourDreamsAreChina Fri 30-Sep-11 16:37:14

"Is your husband very naive?"

Or are you?

CheeseandGherkins Fri 30-Sep-11 16:38:57

Talk to your husband, nothing to do with her whatsoever. If he is finding her too full on then he's the one that should speak with her not you.

ForYourDreamsAreChina Fri 30-Sep-11 16:39:17

Actually, reading the replies, and the OP again...

She doesn't sound stalkerish. She sounds like someone who has met a bloke, who at best is flattering her and making her think she is Onto A Good Thing and at worst...well, who knows? She's moved to the town where he's moved his business and now lo and behold she's working for him for free?

If you read another OP like that OP, what would you think?

CrosswordAddict Fri 30-Sep-11 16:39:22

As she is not being paid there is no legal contract. Get rid of her before the end of next week.

worraliberty Fri 30-Sep-11 16:40:59

How can the OP 'get rid of her' Cross? confused

squeakytoy Fri 30-Sep-11 16:41:01

You are being naive, and your husband is pulling the wool over your eyes if you believe that tale he has spun... sorry to say this sounds like classic affair fodder to me.

eaglewings Fri 30-Sep-11 16:41:38

Foryourdreams is right

Read back your post and see what you would think of someone else posting the same!

Tota1Xaos Fri 30-Sep-11 16:41:47

think you need to be having words with your husband. have you ever met her, out of interest,or just hearing about her from DH?

lec0rnsillk Fri 30-Sep-11 16:41:56

have you met her korma?

cjbartlett Fri 30-Sep-11 16:42:04

He's encouraging her
He knows she's moved to be near him
Now he's given her work
He's a) either naive & too nice, b) doesn't care that you are bothered which is sad
or c) snagging her or likes the attention at least

TunaTiebacks Fri 30-Sep-11 16:42:10

Agree with everyone else, she sounds a bit suspicious but your husband is the one who is married, not her, and he is the one who needs to tell her to back off. If he doesn't, I'd be asking myself why not, and keeping a very close eye on the pair of them.

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