My sister has just announced that she is getting married in Italy next year and wants all the family to join her for the wedding. Normally this would not be a HUGE issue but DH and I have already booked and paid for our holiday the month before Arghhhhhh!
We were trying to be organised and book early so we could cheap flights in school holidays and it gives us almost a year to save etc. Its the only way we can afford to do it.There is no way we can afford do both the holiday and the wedding. Our flights are non refundable so not an option to cancel.
I feel really bad and I know my sister will be very cross if Im not there. But part of me thinks its all very well getting married abroad but people should consider that the expense for everyone to get there is huge. In these times when money is tight it really is a big ask.
I accept that us having booked our holiday was just bad luck but I know there are other family members, including my parents who will really have struggle to get there. Of course its their wedding and they should do it their way but also dont expect people to pay a few grand to be there on the day!
AIBU?
to think people should not choose to get married abroad and expect everyone to come to their wedding!
shebird · 28/09/2011 21:02
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Also I'm not entirely sure the wedding would work out any cheaper than having a wedding closer to home. There's the expense of staying there for a start and then maybe a trip there a few months before to sort out paperwork. And the worse thing is you have all your family and friends on honeymoon with you - not sure she's really thought this through
YANBU - we got married in Mexico but started planning ours 3 years in advance and made sure everyone knew of our plans. We invited about 40 people and ended up with 14, but in no way expected people to come. It was more a 'we would love it if you could be there' and we threw a big party in the UK after we got back, for everyone else not invited or not able to go to Mexico.
It was meant to be cheaper but probably didn't work out that way after we'd paid for wedding, honeymoon and party but it was worth every penny, and I'd do it the same again in a heartbeat.
Sorry to hear you won't be able to go OP but your DSis is BU if she is expecting you to be there, when she's not given you enough notice, nor contributing to the costs. Hope you manage to sort it out 
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YANBU.
My brother and his now wife decided to get married abroad (they already live in western Canada and decided to go even further west 
) and they told us all of their plans and asked us to join them, but said they'd understand if nobody could.
We had a lot of notice and we decided to go (especially since my whole family flew here to my wedding) but there was never any pressure or expectation, just an invitation
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