Here's the thing.
Ds1's father now lives in Scotland, having moved away from ds1 (in Surrey) when we divorced 12 years ago. He has been there for about two years. For 18 months he didn't see ds1 at all, then has had one or two visits over the last few months where ds1 went to his place in Scotland. His father drove down to pick ds1 up and they broke their return journey in Birmingham, staying with ds1's granny.
DS1 is due to go for October half term and wants to travel to Birmingham by himself on the train, saying his father will meet him at New Street station. I have issues with this, all to do with the fact that his father is untrustworthy in the extreme. This arrangement has been suggested before but with the addition of ds1 having to get a connecting train out to the area his granny lives in, and this I said no to.
To let ds1 travel to Birmingham on his own means taking him into London ith ds2 (3) to get him on the train OR putting ds1 on the train here and trusting that he will be able to make his way from Waterloo to Euston (or whatever station it is for Birmingham) and get on the right train. It also means having to trust that his father will meet him at the other end- which I don't. Trust him, that is. He has a history of saying he will do something then NOT doing it (like paying maintenance, for instance).
However.
Ds1 is nearly 16. I have a sneaking suspicion that I am being Mrs Precious MummyPants here and that at his age he should surely be able to manage this trip on his own. Obviously a lot of my objection to the idea is that it relieves his father of yet more responsibility and that pisses me off. Childish, I know.
So. AIBU and a Mrs Precious MummyPants, to boot?
Or am I being totally reasonable in my objections?
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Shodan · 28/09/2011 16:53
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