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To tell MIL's dp that the circular e-mail he has just sent is hideous and he is a twat?

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LiegeAndLief Tue 27-Sep-11 21:39:34

In an effort to be polite dh and I both gave MIL's dp our e-mail addresses. He often sends out tacky circular e-mails that I don't bother to read, but it is no effort to delete them.

Dh actually opened the one he sent today and was horrified, so I opened mine. For a start, he has sent it to every e-mail in his address book and not bcc'ed, so various companies and newletters he subscribes to etc now have my e-mail address, which pisses me off a bit. Far worse is the content of the e-mail, which is anti-Islamic and sounds like it has been written as BNP propaganda.

We already knew he holds strong opinions which I find quite revolting, but have mostly kept quiet to keep the peace, especially as MIL generally agrees with him. Dh has just blocked him and told me to do the same. I want to ask him to never send me anything like that again as I find it deeply offensive and to point out how rude it is to e-mail hundreds of people without bcc'ing. Well, what I really want to do is to tell him he is a racist bigotted twat, but I won't <sits on hands>.

FlyingPirates Tue 27-Sep-11 21:42:05

It is hard to do something about it without causing a family rift. I think perhaps you should just block him and let it go. You already know he is a twat, and that MIL agrees with him and will naturally defend him, so there is nothing you can really do unfortunately. Once it bounces back he may ask you and then perhaps you could find a polite way of saying that you donta gree with his views and leave it at that?

biddysmama Tue 27-Sep-11 21:43:13

yanbu i hate them!

Birdsgottafly Tue 27-Sep-11 21:43:14

So he can say what he wants and make his opinion known, but those that speak sense cannot?

I think that you have all got that the wrong way round.

Hopefully someone he has emailed will reply, if it is just Islam he has targeted it could come under 'inciting racial hatred', lets hope it does.

blaaahh Tue 27-Sep-11 21:43:14

is there any way you can block him from sending emails? they he will sent them and assume you got them? I have blocked one or two serial chain mail senders recently grin

LiegeAndLief Tue 27-Sep-11 22:02:39

Yes I can block him as a sender, which is what dh has done, but I don't think he will know that I have done it. I am really torn between FlyingPirates and Birdsgottafly points of view. I also really can't imagine that all the people he e-mailed (including british airways customer services confused) will share his opinions.

StewieGriffinsMom Tue 27-Sep-11 22:08:30

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Of course, since he hasn't used BCC... if you were to reply to his email saying, could you keep this racist crap to yourself please; and you accidentally hit 'reply to all' instead of 'reply'... then everyone on that list would read it! Nightmare!

(Yeah I would.)
(But I'm a little bit evil. In a right-on liberal way. grin)

LiegeAndLief Tue 27-Sep-11 22:13:10

BoulevardOfBrokenSleep, I reckon if I had had just half a glass of wine when I opened it, that is exactly what I would have done. And indeed exactly what I would like to do, but can't bring myself to. Maybe I should crack open the vodka.

antlerqueen Tue 27-Sep-11 22:26:21

I was going to suggest the same, Boulevard :D (then again, i'm evil too ;) )

Kladdkaka Tue 27-Sep-11 22:37:05

I second Boulevard's suggestion.

ZacharyQuack Wed 28-Sep-11 00:59:46

Email him back and say that he seems to have a nasty virus on his computer which is sending out offensive spam to his entire contact list.

ForceMajeur Wed 28-Sep-11 01:50:42

Tell him. I would and have. A friend of DH's send nothing but "amusing" emails and sent one particularly nasty one about Barack Obama.
I emailed "Not funny" straight back.

Didn't think to do reply all, though. Damn.grin

We still get reams of shite from him, but nothing racist for quite a while.

Definitely send a reply saying 'please don't ever send such racist, offensive bile to me again or it will cause a family rift as I will not have my kids exposed to such bigoted, intolerant comments.' You could also mention that it could be considered inciting racial hatred and a criminal offense. I would probably copy it to the whole list too, to make it clear you do not approve and to give them courage to speak up if they feel the same.

Seriously, you need to make sure he and your Mother in Law know that those views can not be spoken in front of impressionable children. I told my grandparents, who I love more than almost anyone, that I would never go back in their house if they spoke like that in front of me and they respected me enough to do that. They still bought News of the World though sad

HengshanRoad Wed 28-Sep-11 06:03:20

Personally, I would welcome a family rift that meant I didn't have to associate with such a bigot.

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