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to think you should find out how much maternity pay is before getting pregnant?

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signothetimes Mon 26-Sep-11 20:46:04


I have a colleague at work who got married last december and who decided in July to try for a baby. I assumed she'd sussed all the ins and outs of maternity leave/childcare/cost of babies etc. before she stopped using contraception. It took her all of 4 weeks to fall pregnant. Today, she was almost in tears on realising that you get only £128 maternity pay per week once the employer's pay stops. While trying to be sympathetic etc. all I could hear in my little brain was 'what the feck did you think you got?'. Now her 'hubby' is chucking his toys out the pram at the idea of losing his bumper Sky package for 3 fecking months.grin

Call me 'old fashioned' but I thought the idea of planning for a baby involved, you know, actually planning how you manage with maternity leave etc.

just not got the patience for this kinda stuff

Eglu Mon 26-Sep-11 20:51:54

YANBU. She is lucky that your company has any enhanced pay at all. Plenty places only have SMP, including most of the employers I have ever worked for.

Did she think she would get full pay while at home or something?

Georgimama Mon 26-Sep-11 20:53:11

YANBU at all. She is clearly dense.

whackamole Mon 26-Sep-11 20:56:14

What a bloody idiot.

And YANBU. I spent bloody hours working out what we would and wouldn't be able to afford when on maternity leave, months before I even got pregnant!

MrsHuxtable Mon 26-Sep-11 20:56:40

Did she say what she thought she would get????
Is she very young? I really don't get it...

ballstoit Mon 26-Sep-11 20:56:50

YANBU. Hope you get many chuckle filled hours as the realities of parenting hit home...Sky Sports will be a fond but distant memory grin

troisgarcons Mon 26-Sep-11 20:57:20

YOu only legally have to be off work 2 weeks - why isnt she back at work?

2tired2bewitty Mon 26-Sep-11 20:57:46

I have a colleague who when asked what she was thinking of doing about childcare when she came back, replied 'oh, I'm sure dh's mum will help'. I await the inevitable aibu with interest.

signothetimes Mon 26-Sep-11 20:58:39

I've no idea what she thought she would get or how long for but to not even know? I had to really concentrate on keeping my face all sympathetic when all I wanted to do was shock at her, erm, oversight.

kblu Mon 26-Sep-11 21:00:29

What a dimwit.

I only got standard SMP when I was on ML and you manage because you have to but I remember before I got pregnant working it out and thinking fookin hell, how will we cope. But we did.

signothetimes Mon 26-Sep-11 21:02:23

Oh, the childcare will be interesting too. She's agreed to her dad and his wife to look after said baby who will have to be dragged out of bed every morning at about half 5 in order for her to drive an hour, drop off baby, and then head to work for half 8. She has issues about them both smoking, but hasn't actually put 2 and 2 together yet... I've avoided asking her outright if she'll be expecting them to give up smoking in their own home to watch her PFB. grin

JugsMcGee Mon 26-Sep-11 21:04:09

That's really quite stupid. What would she have done if your employer didn't pay any enhanced pay?!

Andrewofgg Mon 26-Sep-11 21:04:45

signothetimes Keep us informed, this could provide good reading in the months and years to come . . .

MrsHuxtable Mon 26-Sep-11 21:06:21

Sounds like she has not thought this through, at all. I'm a compulsive planner, I really don't get people like that...

signothetimes Mon 26-Sep-11 21:08:30

I am honestly gobsmacked at her shock at maternity pay. And tbh, we do get a fab package, especially when you get the chance to enhance the pay you get by hammering overtime to bump up your pay for HR's calculations. I've told her this, and nothing I've said is 'perking' her mood up. I think parenthood will be a steep learning curve for both of them. grin

MrsHuxtable Mon 26-Sep-11 21:10:23

He sounds like an immature twat as well btw!

Minus273 Mon 26-Sep-11 21:12:37

I am freaking about mat pay. I didn't factor DH being given redundancy notice when I was 26 weeks pregnant when we planned this.

signothetimes Mon 26-Sep-11 21:14:30

He is a bit MrsH! He was umm'ing and ahh'ing about all the suggestions I made until she mentioned the Sky package. They are in a 2 bed-roomed flat and they have multi-room, full sky sports and full movie channels. How he thinks he's going to have the time to actually sit down and watch a movie or any kind of sports clearly hasn't crossed his mind!

NotCallingHimNigel Mon 26-Sep-11 21:16:27

Good thing she doesn't live in America..

ILoatheMickeyMouseClubhouse Mon 26-Sep-11 21:16:45

They both sound a bit immature tbh, I am sure parenthood will be a massive shock to the system for them both!

Tee2072 Mon 26-Sep-11 21:18:55

Oh man. Unbelievable.

I think I spent 2 days calculating how we were going to cope when/if I got pregnant. And then I did and the rules and amounts had changed! So I had to recalculate, knowing it was too late as there was a baby coming.

How naive.

Groovee Mon 26-Sep-11 21:19:10

It was £57 a week when I had dd and 14 weeks leave :-S God knows how she'd have coped with that! I didn't even get enhanced pay.

Minus273 Mon 26-Sep-11 21:19:27

I'm more worried about his attitude tbh, that he expects to watch all his favourite TV while she does everything.

Tee2072 Mon 26-Sep-11 21:20:30

Sounds like they both have their heads in Cloud CooCooLand to me.

signothetimes Mon 26-Sep-11 21:23:58

That's fair enough Minus, it's impossible to planned for everything. But, my colleague hadn't even figured out what her money would go down to once her wages stop, and it's kinda important to know these things when trying to plan for maternity leave. I didn't 'plan' anything as I wasn't planning on getting pregnant. But I managed it, and so can she if she sits down and works out what's what. My ex moved in with me thinking he was going to be living off me when I was down to maternity pay! I managed to scrape through to the end of the year, not having planned for having to put down a childcare deposit with my childminder - that was the thing that nearly sunk me. I had a friend whose husband was made redundant just before she gave birth - the redundancy money he got helped them both enjoy the first couple of months with their baby, until he was able to find something else. Not easy in this climate I grant you, but hopefully things will get better for you and yours.

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