One of my Step kids? I'm going to sound like a very nasty woman but, I've had it. Totally.
History. Married 2 yrs. Lovely DH had 3 kids from previous marriage. His ex ended their marriage with her long running affair. I came along 3 years later. Eldest SD... Is 22 and lovely. Middle boy has periodically ignored me and his dad has asked him not to. He's 21 so we see little of him as he's at Uni. Youngest SD, at 17, is just not very nice. Over the past two years, I've been welcoming, put up with her vitriolic outbursts about how much she detests me and how "precious" me and my young son are. I have always tried to smooth things over when this has happened. Sent her a card saying "let bygones be bygones....start afresh" and so on.
Now, we haven't seen her for over a month because I asked her to sort her room out. I'd closed the door on the tip for nearly 2 yrs. Only went in to change bed and put in clean towels.....and the smell of dirty bodies and sweat hit me. Her dad supported me in saying "do something with this room, or I'll take a bin bag to it". Also, she had people sleeping in our (DH and my) bed when we were on holiday. Didn't ask, didn't tell us, didn't change the bedding etc. I was not happy. I know she is not very kind to other people to.....someone recently asked me how I "cope" with her. I'm not sure I want to anymore. Not sure I can be bothered making the effort.
Last week, she informed her dad she'd be over at the weekend. She didnt come, she didnt call....she went to London with a friend and didnt feel the need to let us know. Her visits, are quite regimented as this is just how its always been..... So, when she feels like it, she will grace us with a return visit. But, I'm not sure I want her to. DH has said that there is no reason for her to dislike me, he cannot fault anything I've done etc but, clearly we are not going to get on.....
I haven't taken to disliking her overnight. There's been a good deal of stuff that's happened and I just don't want it anymore. She defeats me.
AIBU to want her to just go away and stop poking me (metaphorically speaking) with a stick?
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LaDolcheRyvita · 26/09/2011 14:24
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