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I'm not being unreasonable, am I ?

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AndTheWinnerIs Mon 26-Sep-11 09:48:47

Dh has a nasty chest infection, off work for the past week and he is still not right.
He is still hacking his guts up and I told him that this was'nt going to get better if he is still smoking as heavily as he is now.
Apparently I am unreasonable and unhelpful and he has stormed out, no doubt for a smoke!
Am I bu?

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 26-Sep-11 09:50:41

<sarcasm alert> YABVVVVU of course smile Smokers are always right. Non-smokers are unhelpful killjoys. 'Tis the law.

flimflammery Mon 26-Sep-11 09:52:15

He's upset because he knows you're right.

CauldronsTrulyReign Mon 26-Sep-11 09:53:11

I think the infection and smoking are probably unrelated.

That said the smoking needs addressing, but he's likely to be aware of that.

Has he see GP about the infectionb

marriednotdead Mon 26-Sep-11 09:53:30

Don't you know that in amongst the 400 chemicals in each fag are cough supressants. Don't deprive him of the cure!

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 26-Sep-11 09:53:33

YANBU..... anyone with half a braincell knows that smoke inhalation is not going to help a respiratory condition. Has he been to his GP? Does work pay out if he's sick?

aldiwhore Mon 26-Sep-11 09:58:05

YABU.... aside from smoking, people get ill. My mother constantly gets chest infections and she's not a smoker. I have a cold now which is accompanied by a cough, exactly the same symptoms as my non smoking friend.

YABU because you've picked a bad time to start lecturing him on smoking, he's poorly.

YANBU because you have a fair point. But there's nothing worse than being preached at when you're poorly.

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 26-Sep-11 10:00:50

'Lecture'? 'Preach?'..... If the guy went to his GP and was told not to smoke until the the infection cleared up would the doctor be lecturing and preaching?

AndTheWinnerIs Mon 26-Sep-11 10:01:46

I am being the biggest hypocrite on the earth as I smoke as well.
He has been to the doctors, signed off for a week and given a lecture.
I am just worried about him I quess and just want he to realise that if he continues smoking as heavily as he is that he is not going to get bettter.

Sparkletastic Mon 26-Sep-11 10:04:06

Use this as an opportunity to suggest giving up together. DH and I only managed to quit when we supported competed with one another

Stoirin Mon 26-Sep-11 10:08:13

Smoking is bad for you but it doesn't interfere with the action of antibiotics. He will get better with appropriate treatment whether he smokes or not.

You should both give up though, as its revolting.

MollyTheMole Mon 26-Sep-11 10:12:10

YABU

If you smoke then you surely know that it is an addiction and not that easy to give up

aldiwhore Mon 26-Sep-11 10:12:29

cognitoergosometimes you expect to be lectured when you speak to a GP. They don't live with you and aren't also smokers!!

andthewinneris its perfectly understandable you're worried about him, he's poorly and you love him. BUT wait until the anti-biotics start kicking in and then tackle both your smoking issues.

You could meet half way and buy him an inhalator thing to use whilst he's poorly...

lollilou Mon 26-Sep-11 13:50:46

YANBU, I gave up 2 weeks ago but every single time I got a cold it would end up with me getting a chest infection and/or very bad cough due to my smoking. But he's a man and prob does not want to hear it just wants your sympathy.

ThePosieParker Mon 26-Sep-11 13:53:43

My mother smoked for years, everytime she goes to the doctor regarding respiratory issues they ask her if she smoked. Today she went for a chest X ray.....

My mother's friend who was a heavy smoker, went to the doctor on the Monday about his chest and died the following Sunday. He had lung and liver cancer.

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