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HidingInTheBathroom Sat 24-Sep-11 10:35:31

My DD is 20 month old. She is called Dallas. I have named her Dallas after my great aunt who is no longer with us as my Aunty Dallas did alot for me when she was alive and holds a dear place in my heart

My problem is that when people ask me what my daughters name they dont seem to like the answer. They pull there face and say well that's unusual. I then feel like I have too explain it.

AIBU to feel like telling them to pit there face straight.

CogitoErgoSometimes Sat 24-Sep-11 10:37:34

YABU It is unusual... Give a child an unusual name and you either have to ignore the remarks or have a stock answer ready. As time goes on, so will they.

HengshanRoad Sat 24-Sep-11 10:38:18

Tell them to mind their own business and not be so rude.

worraliberty Sat 24-Sep-11 10:41:20

YABU it is unusual and you have a lifetime of strange looks ahead probably.

You made the choice and you're obviously happy with it so you'll simply become exhausted by being pissed off at other people's reactions.

jubilee10 Sat 24-Sep-11 10:41:46

YABU if you choose to give your child a daft unusual name you can expect it to be remarked upon.

FruStefanLindman Sat 24-Sep-11 10:41:52

YANBU, but as it is such an unusual name, why don't you say "she's called Dallas, I named her after my favourite aunt" before they get a chance to pull a face?

HairyGrotter Sat 24-Sep-11 10:42:44

YABU, it's the price one pays for having an 'unusual' name. DD's name is ruddy old but not 'popular' during this century. I have to explain it each time but I knew that when I named her...

FruStefanLindman Sat 24-Sep-11 10:42:55

Oh, but, sorry YABU to tell them to put their face straight grin

EdithWeston Sat 24-Sep-11 10:42:56

I think it's inherent when you have an unusual name.

Your DD has a whole lifetime ahead of her where she will have to deal with such comments. Your role now is to model the attitude and response that you want her to have - so if you want her telling strangers off for rudeness, then that's what you do. If you want her to be proud of her name, explain it with pride.

smartyparts Sat 24-Sep-11 10:43:44

YABU, it's an odd unusual name; people are going to comment.

Birdsgottafly Sat 24-Sep-11 10:44:49

You will just have to get over it.

My youngest has a very uncommon name in the UK but it is a family name and means something to me and mine.

As she gets older and you have to shout it in a shop etc, you will have to learn to ignore the raised eyebrows from others.

There is a lot of snobbery and ignorance on MN about names, which at times gets quite offensive when non UK names are being riddiculed. Especially when they don't realise that alot of English names are misspelt 'foreign' names.

Proudnscary Sat 24-Sep-11 10:46:27

You just have to suck it up and not let it bother you.
My dd has unusual name.
Btw I know two Dallas's (mum and daughter). Are you Greek?

BumWiper Sat 24-Sep-11 10:46:47

YABU,you obviously knew that Dallas was an unusual name so no point in moaning that people ask about it.

TheControversialJessie Sat 24-Sep-11 10:50:45

Say proudly, "it's a family name".

allhailtheaubergine Sat 24-Sep-11 10:51:54

People: What's you're daughter's name?

You: Dallas.

People: That's unusual.

You: Thank you <smile>

End of conversation.


allhailtheaubergine Sat 24-Sep-11 10:52:20

Your, not you're.

diddl Sat 24-Sep-11 10:53:23


You don´t have to explain just because someone else doesn´t like it.

They probably still won´t like it!

MollyTheMole Sat 24-Sep-11 10:56:25


Its an unusual name, people are bound to wonder about it. You must have surely known when you chose the name that people would be curious.

But no you dont have to explain if you dont want, but that might make you look a bit aloof.

Proudnscary Sat 24-Sep-11 10:57:59

Or alternatively change her name

<itching to suggest another Texan city but realises that may seem unsupportive>

worraliberty Sat 24-Sep-11 11:00:57

Actually in all seriousness if there was a girl named Dallas in my son's school, I probably wouldn't ask the parents about it.

I would assume she was named after the 80's TV show and leave it at that.

So it might be better that people do actually ask you?

BumWiper Sat 24-Sep-11 11:05:51

Theres a child called Laser Star in DC's school.I don't ask about the name.

PerAr6ua Sat 24-Sep-11 11:10:32

what worraliberty said, although i do thin it's a lovely names as strings of letters go. Just say 'Dallas, after my favourite Aunt' and leave it at that.

Pinot Sat 24-Sep-11 11:16:34

Absolutely what worra said.

Sorry but I did wince a bit at the name. I'm a dullard and think odd names should be middle names.


HidingInTheBathroom Sat 24-Sep-11 11:16:58

Dallas is actually a Scottish name. Nothing to do with Texas. I'm not Greek a little bit of Scottish on my grandparents side.

My aunt did alot for me if it was not for her I would not be the person I am today(without going into detail) she gets called dally for short.

Just feel like I have to justify her name all the time. The name was normal for me as I was used to it.

worraliberty Sat 24-Sep-11 11:20:18

I understand your frustration OP but your DD is the one who will have this for the rest of her as someone else said, how you react to the interest in it now, will teach her how to react.

Therefore, I think it's best to let the angst go and teach her to be proud of her name...and not care about other people's reactions.

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