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To still snoop on DH's ex GF's fb page?!

(32 Posts)
Argos Fri 23-Sep-11 19:48:19

Ok I know I'm being damned unreasonable but why the hell do I do it?! Can't help myself and then feel really grubby and upset afterwards...

worraliberty Fri 23-Sep-11 19:49:09

Are you insecure in your marriage?

Kayano Fri 23-Sep-11 19:49:33

Pretty lame

Hassled Fri 23-Sep-11 19:49:35

What will FB tell you that your DH can't? What's your motive?

LoveInAColdClimate Fri 23-Sep-11 19:49:50

Why on earth would you? How long have you been married?

TheEarlOfDoncaster1963 Fri 23-Sep-11 19:50:11

no, not BU - but probably healthier not to.

KatieMiddleton Fri 23-Sep-11 19:51:23

Yabu and a bit tragic.

Just stop doing it.

OpenMouthInsertFoot Fri 23-Sep-11 19:51:43

What is going through your mind when you go to look? Understanding why you behave as you do is the first step to changing the behaviour.

slavetofilofax Fri 23-Sep-11 19:52:51

Tragic is a good word for it.

If you have confidence and security in your relationship, you wouldn't need to do this. Maybe you should concentrate your effort elsewhere.

TidyDancer Fri 23-Sep-11 19:52:53

I honestly don't understand why you'd do this.

So yes, YABU. Obviously.

Argos Fri 23-Sep-11 19:52:59

No, I am just intrigued for some reason. They were together for years, then best friends for a few more and she wasn't when we got together. I've only met her once, I am just so curious/nosey

Argos Fri 23-Sep-11 19:53:44

Wasn't happy when we got together

Bunbaker Fri 23-Sep-11 19:55:28

Facebook has a lot to answer for. Just don't look. You are asking for trouble.

LoveInAColdClimate Fri 23-Sep-11 19:57:51

He married you, not her. Find a distraction technique for when you want to look - I have no idea what you like doing, but pick something incompatible with Facebook stalking, like a few rows of knitting/a ten minute walk/a quick bit of yoga/a chapter of a good book.

Argos Fri 23-Sep-11 20:00:14

Is there no one else out there who wouldn't be a bit curious? It's not to see what she's doing, more I wanted to see what she looks like and I guess compare myself to her . Have met her once briefly.

LoveInAColdClimate Fri 23-Sep-11 20:02:14

Maybe when we first got together, but certainly not after marriage - I just don't care who he used to go out with, he would have married them if he'd wanted to but he didn't, he married me!

Pedallleur Fri 23-Sep-11 20:04:02

Are you short of something to do or are you 'hoping' your husband is going to be on there? Do you think she is following you on FB or Twitter? Stay off the site beause no good will come of you stalking her

Bunbaker Fri 23-Sep-11 20:04:38

"Is there no one else out there who wouldn't be a bit curious?"

Nope. Not at all. Mind you, we have been married for 30 years and I doubt if they would be on Facebook anyway..

Argos Fri 23-Sep-11 20:04:41

No I don't look that much anymore tbh but still I wish I didn't have the urge at all

LeBOF Fri 23-Sep-11 20:05:44

Just block her so you can't see her. It is a bit teenage.

Argos Fri 23-Sep-11 20:05:57

Oh right, we're 28 and have been married 2 years blush

PetiteRaleuse Fri 23-Sep-11 20:11:22

A bit of snooping on FB can be fun. But not to the point where you are worrying about IBU. You're obviously doing too much of it.

Have a break from the FB malarkey.

StrandedBear Fri 23-Sep-11 20:31:32

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Pelvicflooragogo Fri 23-Sep-11 20:33:32

I do this! Just totally nosiness - including trying to see their Amazon wishlists! Have you realised you can put any name in and see their wishlist? And how about linkedin? But then they can find out you've seen them...I do it for me exes too. Love it! I do tell DH about it freely - he thinks it's hilarious. don't do it loads - just occasionally. And can't see proper FB - just the piccies which haven't been security protected shock!

MerylStrop Fri 23-Sep-11 20:34:12

Does it make you happy?

No?

Then just stop

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