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To feel crap because of football?!

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missmaryp Thu 22-Sep-11 08:02:12

So... the gist is, my man was away on a course for four days and got back last night. I was all excited, waiting for for him with wine and candles but understanding he would be knackered. We chat for a few hours and go to bed, with him saying he wants to catch up on the footy. Fair enough, so I watch a programme while he does so next to me.

When it's finished, he rolls over to give me a cuddle and I'm thinking mmm lovely, so pleased to have him back I'm gonna get my smooch on! Yay! However. He then rolls back over to say he hasn't actually watched the football yet, and is going to do so now. It's after 1am by this point.

I am upset. He knows this. This morning I am playfully told not to be a grump, and that he understands I am pleased to see him but that I should be more flexible, as half an hour later when he had finished watching the football if I hadn't ignored him, well I'd have 'got my way'.

I feel like absolute shit. Like I'm way down on his list of priorities. AMIBU to feel that it's normal to expect him to be as excited about getting home as me, about getting back to each other? Or am I just being a brat?

Callisto Thu 22-Sep-11 08:13:16

Well, personally I think that any man who prefers watching football to shagging me does not deserve to be with me.

The excitement levels would depend how long you've been together tbh, but the way he treated you when he got home would be a dealbreaker for me.

AvaLafff Thu 22-Sep-11 08:18:56

what an over reaction lol

you had him all evening, you could have had your way with him all that time

GypsyMoth Thu 22-Sep-11 08:21:23

Christ, how is it 'footballs' fault??

Dont blame the game!!

missmaryp Thu 22-Sep-11 08:26:40

Ok, fair enough! Sorry football!

WorzselMummage Thu 22-Sep-11 08:30:13

This freakish repulsive behaviour is why, when I was single,
I refused to date men who were into sport.

Yanbu Op, not at all.

nickschick Thu 22-Sep-11 08:38:07

u could wear this then he could watch a different kind of football?.......

nickschick Thu 22-Sep-11 08:39:23

this if your still angry.....

Kayano Thu 22-Sep-11 09:13:07

So... He spent all evening with you but watched football for 30 mins and you feel like that?

OTT IMO

My DH plays wow for like 4 hours a night, 3 days a week

missmaryp Thu 22-Sep-11 09:49:28

Thanks for making me smile nickschick!

It's not even like football is a big thing or something he watches that regularly tbh. I think it's more that I want to be intimate more often than him. Apparently it's all about timing, that I get sad when I don't get what I want straight away and how if roles were reversed I'd think he was out of order for demanding sex and then getting grumpy if denied.

Chance would be a frigging fine thing!!

I'm sick of feeling rejected. It feels like whenever I try an initiate intimacy it's not the right damn time for him. And you know, that starts to effect your relationship after a while.

I know I'm ranting now but I feel we are going round in circles and nothing changes. Just wish he would show me he does fancy me, love me, want me. We have only been together 2 years and the first was so passionate.

What can I do?! Stop moaning?!

missmaryp Thu 22-Sep-11 09:51:06

Btw I do not DEMAND sex! I am quite normal in initiating, I think, and no demands are placed!

worraliberty Thu 22-Sep-11 09:54:30

This is interesting because if it was the other way round, at least half of MN would have said "Oh tell him to have a wank and stop sulking!"

grin

missmaryp Thu 22-Sep-11 10:04:09

I have dreams about pornography and masturbation I'm so fucking frustrated I actually have tears in my eyes. Pathetic.

worraliberty Thu 22-Sep-11 10:54:07

It's not pathetic if it's upsetting you.

But if you're that frustrated then why not watch some porn and masturbate?

That might take the pressure off the situation...though of course it won't 'solve' it.

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