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ilovezumba Wed 21-Sep-11 21:04:23

Am I overreacting? Please give me advice...
Ok this is my first thread so will try to keep in short and to the point ;)
I have a DD of 3 and DD of 5.

My friend of 2 years has DS of 5 years and DD of 2 years and expecting another has started to be well immature and I feel- very spiteful at times.
Before the weekend she was at my house while big kids at school, my daughter had wrapped herself up in our sofa blanket in the dining room and was happily playing with her teddies. I heard her scream and when i went into the room she was crying, i scooped her up and Friend said she just pulled her along the floor and very abruptly said to her in a very childish voice “Im not going to play with you any more” walked off and plonked herself down on the sofa. I was livid i made sure DD was ok and decided to keep an eye on her.

A few hours later after still slobbing on my sofa we were in the kitchen and my DD was being typical 3 year old had started acting up and she said to her “Oh XXXXXX you are evil” i quickly said if anyone was going to say this then it should be me . She said sorry i didn’t mean it like that.
We are together a lot and our DD’s are not the same age and they have their usual 10 mins loving each other and well they do find it hard to share. This is what you would expect and I think it is Very normal behaviour . But when we are in our house its “Oh XXXXXX my DD is little you should share” then when her daughter doesn’t share its “Oh XXXXX my DD is little you should share” I always feel like she’s singling my DD out. She does give her the evil stare sometimes and it just makes me feel uncomfortable.

When we go to the park my DD seems to get to the swings first and when there is no other free after about 5 mins she’s behind me telling my DD “Oh is XXXXX turn”. Rather than just wait for a free swing.

She comments all the time on my DD’s behaviour and asked me if i think i should see someone about her OCD. WTF. My daughter likes to line DVDS up in a line and tidy up and stuff but nothing to extreme (loves getting dirty and not obsessive about hand washing)
I adore her daughter and treat her the same as my own, she is a typical 2 year old little monkey teases my daughter yes! and is a very happy kid a bit like my own i think and well i embrace that but never feel that I have to make an issue out of every little act. My DD is no longer happy in their company and doesn’t want to meet with them when i tell her what we are doing that day.
This is not all of it but I haven’t got all night!
Our 5 year olds go to the same school so obviously worried about what will happen if it all comes to blows. I havnt met with her this week although we have met at school pickups but i find her to be cold.
What to do 

peterpan99 Wed 21-Sep-11 21:08:38

tell her if she is going to constantly attack your daughter then she is not welcome in your house.
It is completely unfair on your daughter and im shocked that an adult would talk to a child in this way!

Georgimama Wed 21-Sep-11 21:10:58

You don't sound much like you like her (can't blame you) and your DD doesn't either. Drop her. Easiest all round.

HamstersDontSwim Wed 21-Sep-11 21:11:53

Stay away!

Your 'friend' is horrid to your DD and it just shouldnt be like that sad

You dont have to have a row, just be busy and let it cool off.

ilovezumba Wed 21-Sep-11 21:16:03

Thankyou all smile I just needed to know that I wasnt overreacting, i feel better already after putting into words and letting it all out. Your right HamstersDontSwim i will keep busy but she has a habit of waiting for me in the car park. I have started walking to school so has helped!

SwingingBetty Wed 21-Sep-11 21:21:02

i think you are over reacting

yes of course you need to take turns on a swing
kid probably squeaked when she pulled the blanket cos she was taken by surprise

maybe she thinks your kids is a spoilt brat, maybe she is

ilovesooty Wed 21-Sep-11 21:22:27

And you are friends with her because...???

Dump her.

ilovezumba Wed 21-Sep-11 21:24:12

Ok yes she can be a brat but spoilt hell no. I agree kids need to learn to take turns but you know this is just the tip of the iceburg. but well your entitled to your opinion.

Thanks for your comment smile

ilovezumba Wed 21-Sep-11 21:25:46

ps she was holding her elbow because she hurt herself and had tears in her eyes and i could feel she was scared sad

altinkum Wed 21-Sep-11 21:27:10

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HamstersDontSwim Wed 21-Sep-11 21:32:28

The woman is a nutter!
If she dose catch you in the car park, just smile, say 'hi' and remember how busy you are.
It would be akward to have a slanging match (and this tw"t sounds childish enough to make a fuss) as you will bump into her at school.

I hope she crawls back under her rock without bothering you and your little DD.

troisgarcons Wed 21-Sep-11 21:37:43

she said to her “Oh XXXXXX you are evil” i quickly said if anyone was going to say this then it should be me

Wow! "evil" !!!!!! fantastic, I like it hmm

Not sure anyone has trhe prerogative on it though. So you calling evils is better than her calling evils?

Cant wait for the justification on this!

ilovezumba Wed 21-Sep-11 21:39:40

point taken troisgarcons but i didnt know how to handle it im weak!

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