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To chuck My 18 yo Daughter out????????????????????????????

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Tortington Wed 21-Sep-11 13:03:39

Lots of question marks in the title definitely chav it up don't they grin

i am posting in AIBU becusae i want you to tell me i am.

18 yo dd, works and goes to college another town over, stays at her partners flat all week, msybe comes home once a week.

i love her to bits, shes everything to me - but i want her bedroom smile

dh snores and i fancy my own space. aibu to literally take thebed my daughter sleeps on away from her:?

Huffythetantrumslayer Wed 21-Sep-11 13:05:45

Can you stay in there when she's at her dp's and let her have it on the weekend or whenever she's with you?

TheVermiciousKnid Wed 21-Sep-11 13:06:30

YABU. Chuck your husband out instead. He is the one who is distrubing the peace at night. grin

CogitoErgoSometimes Wed 21-Sep-11 13:07:58

I don't think it's all that U, tbh. She's an adult with a job and has 99% left home by the sound of it. All she needs now is a gentle shove in the direction of getting her own place.... ask for more contribs to the household budget/chores/etc.

RedRubyBlue Wed 21-Sep-11 13:08:19

I left home at 17 and my Mum rented my room out. Now that hurt!

Can't you get bunkbeds and be 'roomies'?

diddl Wed 21-Sep-11 13:08:43

Does she stay over at the w/end at all or just bring dirty washing over?

If she doesn´t stay, then has essentially moved out & I´d take the room back-or at least use the bed!

ConstanceNoring Wed 21-Sep-11 13:09:32

chav grin

Yep, use the bedroom when she's not there, at least then you'll get some nights of rest. Buy some earplugs for the other nights, - actually wear them every night as you'll probably still be able to hear DH from another room if he snores anything like mine hmm

fedupofnamechanging Wed 21-Sep-11 13:09:38

I think you should wait until she is ready to move out herself. You wouldn't want to rush her into living properly with someone if she isn't quite ready and you wouldn't want her to think she doesn't have a home with you. 18 is still very young.

I'd use her room when she is away or send dh to the doctor to try and get something done about the snoring.

I was gonna suggest bunkbeds too....could be fun smile

planetpotty Wed 21-Sep-11 13:10:14

Awww poor DD, (YABU - in the nicest possible way) you may be surprised how upsetting it would be for her not to have her room there, I agree get the DH on a sofa bed or maybe buy some ear plugs grin

planetpotty Wed 21-Sep-11 13:10:48

YY to bunkbeds - as long as the boyfriend does not say over!

diddl Wed 21-Sep-11 13:11:59

"aibu to literally take thebed my daughter sleeps on away from her:?"

But you´d only borrow it when she´s not the really?

You´re not planning to take over the bedroom & make it unusable to her?



Are you?

AandK Wed 21-Sep-11 13:12:37

Seriously?? No do not kick your daughter out!!!

Just use her bed while she's away then go back to your husbands bed when she's home.

She's too young and its too expensive for her to afford her own place yet, she's too young to be settling down with her partner and you forcing her to live with him permanently could damage her relationship.

You have to put up with your husbands snoring, you chose him!!!

ChaoticAngeloftheUnderworld Wed 21-Sep-11 13:19:10

I agree with TheVermiciousKnid. There's nothing, AFAICR, in the vows about having to put up with snoring grin

Tortington Wed 21-Sep-11 13:23:08

oh yes, i was planning to take over the room, re=paint it, move my dressing table in etc. don't want to share with a teenager really - so its chuck her out or get earplugs

grin

too much?

Tortington Wed 21-Sep-11 13:25:14

<think i have sealed my 'heartless bitch' MN aura>

ConstanceNoring Wed 21-Sep-11 13:25:49

evil

What does DH think about it? or haven't you told him your plans yet? grin

Tortington Wed 21-Sep-11 13:33:05

hes trying/planning to lose weight,

i'm planning what paint to buy grin

ConstanceNoring Wed 21-Sep-11 13:50:55

Interesting, I'm sure DH's snoring has increased with his waistline too...

<eyes up other DC rooms but too young to chuck out>

<eyes up shed for DH>

TheVermiciousKnid Wed 21-Sep-11 13:53:11

The shed is a very good idea. I can hear my husband's snoring from all every room in the house. I think putting up a hammock in the shed for him would be perfectly reasonable.

planetpotty Wed 21-Sep-11 13:54:59

Ha ha your DD is still a teenager she may just unleash the teenage wrath on you and teach you a lesson (paint used to writ on walls dont mess with my room Mum!!) grin

In all seriousness even the suggestion of this may really upset your DD AND she may think you and DH are having problems and its the begining of the end sad

Get earplugs - make DH loose weight - Tell him your too tired to perform wifely duties due to the bloody snooring that should get him down the gym smile

Ifancyashandy Wed 21-Sep-11 13:58:52

Nah - YNBU! My lovely mum, who I did and still do get on every well with said when I was 18, 'If you want to move out, feel free! We don't want you to but we'll understand if you do and we'll help with 1st months rent & deposit'.

I moved in with mates before you could say 'who's doing my washing'!

She doesn't have to move in with her bloke - there's a middle ground. Tell her about the parties she can have!

diddl Wed 21-Sep-11 14:41:35

"too much?"

Just a tad, perhapsgrin

Why would you need to repaint & move furniture in rather than just use the bed?

squeakytoy Wed 21-Sep-11 14:43:59

At 18, she is quite likely to not be in this relationship for ever, so then what would you do? I left home, went back, left again, went back until I was nearly 30 grin

RedRubyBlue Wed 21-Sep-11 14:47:29

What posters will you put on your walls? Justin Bieber is well wicked, innit.

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