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to an almost 10yo DS to walk to school alone?

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winnybella Tue 20-Sep-11 07:53:43

Well, he's 9.8 yo. He has to walk 3 short blocks and cross 3 roads, a busy one on front of our house with the lights zebra crossing, one small one leading off a tiny roundabout (cars drive slowly there) and one close to school with a lollipop man.

Ex thinks it's not a good idea.

DS wants to walk by himself. I have initially followed him and he's seems to be very good about road safety.

Yesterday I cunningly said that I'll walk with him half way as I need to get bread and he said "ok, but I walk in front and you in the back' hmm

He needs some independance but I'm here every morning chewing my nails wondering whether he got to school ok.

winnybella Tue 20-Sep-11 07:54:55

In fact there 2 more crossing right in front of school, but very small roads and plenty of pupils/parents there so not worried as much about those.

winnybella Tue 20-Sep-11 07:56:24

to let an almost 10yo....

TanteRose Tue 20-Sep-11 07:58:31

of course he can walk to school by himself.


MrsSleepy Tue 20-Sep-11 07:59:17

Of course he can :-)


CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 20-Sep-11 07:59:46

YANBU. If there are any other children walking along, that would be good. Is he an 'ex' because of other control freakery behaviour?

winnybella Tue 20-Sep-11 08:00:22

grin yes, indeed, Cogito

hobnobsaremyfave Tue 20-Sep-11 08:03:38


Chopstheduck Tue 20-Sep-11 08:13:02

I'd try to encourage him to find a friend to walk with, but yanbu. Mine is 11 and now has to catch the bus to school by herself.

Last year she was walking a mile to school alone, with ds1 (8-9yrs) crossing lots of minor roads. I won't let ds walk it alone yet, but would do once his friend is allowed to.

I think a lot of parents feel unable to let their kids out of sight without being judged, and it is a shame.

borderslass Tue 20-Sep-11 08:14:15

YANBU DD2 was walking 2 miles to school by 8.6 and crossing 2 main roads.

HowToLookGoodGlaikit Tue 20-Sep-11 08:17:10

My DDs have been walking a mile to school since the age of about 7 and 9 (walking together). They cross a few roads, 2 with lollipop ladies and one with a crossing.

spookshowangellovesit Tue 20-Sep-11 08:23:18

my dd has been walk to school since 8. 10 should be no bother.

ragged Tue 20-Sep-11 08:24:58


inmysparetime Tue 20-Sep-11 08:26:08

Let him walk. My DS has been walking to school since Y3, he now has his own key at 10yo and loves the responsibility.

winnybella Tue 20-Sep-11 08:26:10

Thanks everyone. Yes, there's an element of wondering whether I'm being a neglectful mother hmm.

Tbh the friend situation is not looking great at the moment-it's one of the reasons I let him walk by himself plus signing him up for swimming and karate classes plus generally giving him more responsibilities and independence so it'll be good for his self-confidence iyswim.

My baby's growing up. Next he'll want to take a bus by himself <sigh>

borderslass Tue 20-Sep-11 08:28:52

winnybella when DD2 started walking I got her a cheap mobile phone she texted/called me to say she was there and it was handed in to her teacher for the day.

winnybella Tue 20-Sep-11 08:31:24

Good idea, borderlass smile. We initially thought of maybe getting him one for his 10th birthday, but maybe we could get him one sooner.

Sofabitch Tue 20-Sep-11 08:32:19

Mine walk cycle and they are 9 and 10 I still get the odd moment where they get home later than expected because they are chatting which sets my heart racing but it's 1.4 miles and they cross 3 roads one has an island. One has push button traffic lights and the other isn't that busy.

Bloodymary Tue 20-Sep-11 08:32:40

YANBU. He will be fine.

Bonsoir Tue 20-Sep-11 08:35:03

I agree with the mobile idea. My DD is nearly 7 and next year, when she turns 8, I want her to start doing a few short journeys on her own (journeys that don't include any road crossings) like go across the park after school to her art class, with a friend, or take the bus home from school (I would fetch her at the bus stop). I am planning to get her a mobile so that we can text each other about her progress and so that she can call me in an emergency.

melika Tue 20-Sep-11 08:39:15

It's hard but I think go with your instinct, I let my son in Y6 go but he didn't have any roads without lights or lollipop person to cross him.

Saying that, I said to my 16 yr old, last Thursday, be careful on the roads. He turned around and said 'How old do you think I am, Mom?

Ten mins later he ring me up to tell me a girl had just been knocked over in front of his bus. She was 17 and going to college. Still don't know what her condition but I have had her on my mind ever since.

winnybella Tue 20-Sep-11 08:40:51

Ok, will look into getting a mobile then.

Bonsoir- I find the drivers here a bit reckless (obv.generalizing but...) which adds to my worries.

borderslass Tue 20-Sep-11 08:46:06

Reason DD2 got mobile was 1. she has borderline ADHD and 2. it was main A7 to Edinburgh she had to cross plus a rat run.[several minor rds as well]

ripstheirthroatoutliveupstairs Tue 20-Sep-11 08:51:49

My 10.4 DD walks to the bus stop, crossing one very busy road with a pelican crossing, then gets the bus, walks along two quiet roads and is at school within 20 minutes.
OP, your DS sounds ready to do it. YANBU.

gethelp Tue 20-Sep-11 09:05:36

Agree yanbu, but make sure he isn't looking at the phone whilst walking along/crossing the road. I see lots of teenagers and adults not looking where they are going but the younger kids do seem to be a bit more aware. And I hope the friendship thing improves for him.

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