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To not have a sit down wedding buffett as we are finally getting married and having it at 4pm ?

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misscracker Mon 19-Sep-11 19:32:49

I was thinking of having a afternoon tea,sandwiches,pasties,pies,cakes,etc and beer for the men,wine,bubbly oj and tea and coffee for everyone still, but doing it without the formality aibu?.

As a friend said it was?.

SandStorm Mon 19-Sep-11 19:33:49

I think that sounds lovely. It's your wedding - do what you like.

TidyDancer Mon 19-Sep-11 19:34:20

YANBU (as long as you let the women have the beer too!).

I personally prefer a buffet type reception to the more formal affairs.

Congratulations and have a great day. smile

knittedbreast Mon 19-Sep-11 19:35:14

no you are not, but are you sure that by that time your guests wont be hungry for a more substantial meal? I would be by then...

if children are coming aswell they might need a bit more filling, this is what put me off a late pm wedding.

although the light will be gooorrrgeeeoouuusss

ChaoticAngeloftheUnderworld Mon 19-Sep-11 19:35:25

YANBU So long as you let people know in advance so they won't be expecting a meal.

Why beer for the men? confused

Paschaelina Mon 19-Sep-11 19:35:44

Yanbu. I wanted that, was overruled and regretted it. My good friend did it and no-one batted an eyelid.

BluddyMoFo Mon 19-Sep-11 19:36:42

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

planetpotty Mon 19-Sep-11 19:37:43

YANBU lovely idea. Your day - your way smile

StrandedBear Mon 19-Sep-11 19:37:50

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LineRunner Mon 19-Sep-11 19:38:05

What's not filling about a sandwich, a pasty, a pie and beer? Sounds good to me. I'd be stuffed.

misscracker Mon 19-Sep-11 19:38:14

Sorry beer for men and women,im not sexiest honest grin.

Flisspaps Mon 19-Sep-11 19:40:24

Sounds wonderful. We didn't have a lot to spend, so had an afternoon wedding with just a buffet.

If we go to an afternoon wedding, then I'd expect to have to eat before I went, not to have a sit down mean and a buffet later.

HairyBeaver Mon 19-Sep-11 19:42:10

My mums getting married on Saturday at 4pm. At 5:30pm we will be having a hot buffet of various things like chilli con carne, jacket spuds, and a couple of other main dishes as well as salad (you get the jist) and then a cold buffet for the evening guests later on.

IMO you are NBU as wedding breakfasts are redicioulsy (sp) overpriced tbh with very little, if any, choice. Buffets and BBQ/Hot roasts are the way forward grin

LineRunner Mon 19-Sep-11 19:42:37

I assumed it would beer for the men and the hard-assed women. smile

LtEveDallas Mon 19-Sep-11 19:42:39

We got married at 4pm and had a BBQ. It was great fun, far less formal and everyone said how much better it was.

ireallyagreewithyou Mon 19-Sep-11 19:42:48

i got married at 4pm
had a meal at about 6

then that was it

ireallyagreewithyou Mon 19-Sep-11 19:43:04

also remember people are travelling and drinking - need to mop up booze

MiseryBusiness Mon 19-Sep-11 19:43:17

I'm having a tea party at 4pm and then a BBQ in the evening smile
Although, we are already married but getting our vows renewed, just as exciting though!

TheFowlAndThePussycat Mon 19-Sep-11 19:47:20

YANBU, we went to a 4pm wedding recently with a sit down buffet and were the second-to-last table to get fed at 8.30. Not a problem for me & DH, but our kids (both under 4) and the elderly diabetics at our table were starving by 7.30 so we decided to (politely) push in & get something for them (we waited our turn though!).

Much nicer and more inclusive to have something informal so that people can help themselves & not feel embarrassed about having to step out of turn iyswim.

YABU about beer for the men though!

CMOTdibbler Mon 19-Sep-11 19:52:14

Sounds great to me. Though I like a pint grin

notsofastmrbond Mon 19-Sep-11 19:57:03


I don't think YABU, but I'm not sure if I once committed a faux pas in this area myself.

We got married at 3PM. Full sit down three course meal at about 5.30PM. In the evening, just canapes.

The canapes and the cake were wolfed down.

I still wonder if people thought we were being massively tight for not providing another round of food. But I just can't picture sitting down to a three course meal at 5.30 then wanting to eat again.

So, jury is out.

notsofastmrbond Mon 19-Sep-11 19:57:36

What's a sit down buffet? confused

notsofastmrbond Mon 19-Sep-11 19:59:10

We didn't have any evening guests btw, was an everyone in thing.

ChristinedePizan Mon 19-Sep-11 20:00:11

Sit down buffet = no waitress service.

And a full 3 course meal at 5.30 then canapes sounds like loads to me!

fatlazymummy Mon 19-Sep-11 20:06:41

This sounds great to me. And just as filling as a sit down meal [assuming there is plenty of food].
It's also a good idea to serve beer and wine, though I wouldn't specify sexes.

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