Advanced search

to wonder why my friend just walked straight past me

(47 Posts)
knittynoodle Mon 19-Sep-11 08:07:16

I went into the same restaurant as her at the weekend. I didnt realise at the time but she was in a window seat and must have seen me not only walk past the window, but come in and wait to be seated. Our table was behind hers.

I saw some of her party and recognised one of them as her work colleague. As their party got up to leave, the friend I was eating with said "Hey! Isnt that xxx?" I turned round and looked straight into the face of my friend and I went to mouth Hello but she quickly walked out of the door! I saw her glance back through the restaurant window. The friend I was eating with said she had looked over a few times but she wasnt sure it was her.

I text her yesterday just saying I thought Id seen her out, and my usually responsive friend has said nothing. AIBU to think something is up or am I being paranoid? This is not like her, she would normally have come over and sampled something off my plate, chatted etc. hmm The only thing I can think of is that she didnt like the friend I was eating with or that the colleague dislikes me, and that put her off but surely an adult wouldnt let that worry them and would still just say hello?!

Also, before anyone says it : She DEFINITELY saw me. She looked straight into my face.

DecapitatedLegoman Mon 19-Sep-11 08:13:14

Someone I know walked right past me in the street a couple of months ago. I mean, we moved over to pass each other on the pavement and as I looked into her face, smiled and opened my mouth to greet her she stuck her nose in the air and flounced past me! Wondered what I'd done to get her goat but the next time I saw her it was business as usual. Who knows.

Why not ring her, ask if she got your text and arrange a coffee or something. If she's funny with you then the next move depends on whether you're arsed about her or not.

knittynoodle Mon 19-Sep-11 08:15:42

I sort of feel like ringing her would be a bit like shouting in the restaurant 'HEY YOU! Its meeeeeeeeeeee' IYSWIM!

I dont really want to chase her.

Birdsgottafly Mon 19-Sep-11 08:20:22

Does she usually wear contact lenses?

Perhaps she shouldn't have been at the resaurant, for some reason and doesn't want to draw attention to the fact?

knittynoodle Mon 19-Sep-11 08:22:46

I actually hadnt thought of that, Birds but what a great suggestion! She had told me she was on some soup diet and refused some biscuits when she was over for tea, and this was a PIZZA restaurant. Brilliant! Whether its true or not, I feel better grin

ThatsNotMyBabyBelly Mon 19-Sep-11 08:32:29

I don't wear contacts but do wear glasses for driving etc. Sometimes I just cannot tell who is who - this has included DH(!) - at a distance. I wasn't sure whether the girl coming across the road was my niece last week.

Could easily be a sight thing.

<thinks I should really get my eyes retested>

knittynoodle Mon 19-Sep-11 08:33:51

No, she doesnt wear glasses or contacts. She knowingly ignored me.

TrillianAstra Mon 19-Sep-11 08:35:08

She is having an affair.

chickflit Mon 19-Sep-11 08:37:34

Sometimes I ignore people if I see them in a place that I don't expect them to be at, it's not that I'm ignoring them it's as if my brain doesn't compute it's them until later, probably because I'm a dreamer and not paying attention to my surroundings.

NinkyNonker Mon 19-Sep-11 08:38:42

Was she with someone she shouldn't have been?

knittynoodle Mon 19-Sep-11 08:45:18

No she wasnt.

Its odd but I feel like she was thinking, Quick! Run! Shes looking! and then a mad bolt for the door

[sneaky look back through the window to check it was a clean getaway]

MrsRobertDuvall Mon 19-Sep-11 08:52:35

Were you wearing Per Una?wink

knittynoodle Mon 19-Sep-11 08:53:35


UterusUterusGhali Mon 19-Sep-11 08:53:45

You had a massive booger.

spookshowangellovesit Mon 19-Sep-11 08:57:05

what makes you think she is not having an affair? that is definitely affairy behaviour.

I'd say it sounds like she didnt want you to notice her.

So she was guilty about where she was (eating pizza) or who she was with (crush on colleague?)

NinkyNonker Mon 19-Sep-11 08:59:53

Hmmm, maybe she wondered why you didn't see her and say hi?

HairyGrotter Mon 19-Sep-11 09:04:11

I have been known to behave in this manner when I simply can't be arsed to speak to said person blush.

Maybe she just didn't fancy speaking to you?

StuntCubble Mon 19-Sep-11 09:05:28

How weird. Does she have form for this kind of thing?

2blessed2bstressed Mon 19-Sep-11 09:23:24

If I was you, I'd think back to the last time you saw her before this. Was there any awkwardness? Or an arrangement made to do something that you've maybe completely forgotten about, and so she thinks you've been "off" with her? Or do you have mutual friends with tendencies to gossip, so she may have heard about the comment you made about her always having her boobs nearly falling out of her dress when your dp's around?
<<that has never happened to me, cough>>

knittynoodle Mon 19-Sep-11 09:33:29

She came round for tea just three days prior to this event and everything was fine! I think its one or all of the following:

- Her workmate doesnt like me on the back of something my friend has said and to say hello would look two faced
- She couldnt be bothered (although thats unlike her)
- She was gutted Id seen her out eating pizza when she goes on about her healthy eating plan all the time grin

notcitrus Mon 19-Sep-11 09:39:37

She could be like me and crap with faces, so she might have seen you and just not been able to figure out who you were out of context. I have this frequently with work colleagues - I can figure them out in the office but no idea if I meet them near home.

Or maybe she was in the middle of a conversation with her other friend and didn't feel up to introducing you.

UniS Mon 19-Sep-11 09:39:48

your friend may be short-sighted, may be face blind, may have been distracted and not expecting to see any one they recognised.
it may not have been your friend, they might have a doppelgänger. I have one, when I first moved here for about a year people were getting the two of us confused

knittynoodle Mon 19-Sep-11 09:46:10

Ive known her since I was at infant school. We shared a flat together for a year. She knew it was me. Ive met the work mate twice before so there are no intro's to be made.

And UniS, yes it was definitely her, and her work mate.

elisadoeslittle Mon 19-Sep-11 09:53:10

Only in AIBU will you be told youre own eyes were wrong and that you were mistaken, the friend you were eating with was mistaken, and that you did'nt recognise not one but two people. She saw you alright but I think she probably did'nt want to mix two friend groups. I have friends likt that.

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now »

Already registered? Log in with: