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yes, i told someone that i'd seen her CM loading her 2 kids (one 3 and one one) into a private hire cab as she was running late for school run.
even if it's 'legal' it's not ideal\safe.

I would tell friend as I wouldn't want some pisshead looking after my child.

i think you would be unreasonable for not telling your friend.
if she wasnt getting paid to look after someone elses child id say mind your own buisness but...yanbu

could you show your friend on your fb?

YANBU I would want to know

I can't think of a reason not to tell her, can you?

YANBU at all, she would want to know

Yanbu. Apart from the drinking, its the being out at lunch long enough to drink a whole bottle whilst mindee does what? every week. Your friend and her baby deserve better.

How is the cm getting to the restaurant? Is she driving with the baby?

I would try and do it in a diplomatic way.. for all you know, your friend could be well aware that the woman is going out, and does not have a problem with it... equally she might not know.. but I would tread carefully or you could end up being the one that nobody is speaking to for interfering.

Bloody hell yes! Ring her now. And print off the page before she deletes it.

YANBU. I'd want someone to tell me, and I think I'd be angry if I found out they hadn't.

Does she drive with the child after the lunch?

uh..... yeah

If you're 100% sure she's drinking a bottle of wine with lunch at the same time as CM, then without question you must tell your friend.

YWBU if you did not tell her

I told an employer that her sister's nanny took drugs whilst looking after her children.

Imagine how you would feel if something happened and you had done nothing,

yy, agree with robot print the page, say to your friend, oh I am not sure what to make of this, but thought you might want to see it, and leave it there.

Is she a proper Ofsted registered CM i.e getting paid to look after your friend's child? If so, I am genuinely shocked! Safety aspect aside, it can't be much fun for the baby to be strapped into a buggy for a few hours whilst it's carer gets pissed with her mates.

I would not only tell your friend but would also consider reporting to Ofsted. This CM is massively unprofessional. She is doing a paid job - why would you consider it OK to meet your friends and get pissed on someone else's time?

[mind boggles]

agree with squeaktoy. I would be tactful, explain the fb exchange you have seen, rather than saying you have absolute proof she downs a bottle at lunchtime.

Is she having lunch with one friend or four?

Definitely print the page, it is all too easy to claim that you misinterpreted or delete the fb update. CC was def BU, you just need to inform friend and protect yourself.

Poor child

CM, not CC!

Are you sure you haven't stumbled across an in-joke though?

I'd certainly want to know and would be furious if I later discovered that you were aware of it and hadn't told me.