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contact whilst on work jolly ?

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Bubbles007 Sun 18-Sep-11 21:23:00

ok, hubby been on work jolly in spain for four days. We have been some what dodge for a while, and he has admitted to flirting with work colleague. So being aware of all this, he has not called, texted in deed anything, until today when he calls and asks if he is in trouble and then is texting all day with updates on his hell return journey... Why? I / we (three daughters aswell) should not be that easy to drop off the radar

SwingingBetty Sun 18-Sep-11 21:24:08

not very thoughtful was it

SwingingBetty Sun 18-Sep-11 21:24:21

did you call/text him

Bubbles007 Sun 18-Sep-11 21:31:59

texted on the second day asking if he was alive, swift short response and i left alone. girls asked on saturday as he had said he would send pubs so ended up texting around8 pm sat to be told he was wasted ... .wtf ??? Sick of being annoyed

Bubbles007 Sun 18-Sep-11 21:33:55

pubs was ment to be pics !. * !

peasandlove Sun 18-Sep-11 21:35:50

he sounds like a selfish prick.

NestaFiesta Sun 18-Sep-11 21:38:07

YANBU. It's fair enough for him to enjoy himself and let his hair down, BUT when a DH is away the DW's workload is doubled so he should appreciate that you re stuck at home with kids in order for him to live it up and he should be grateful and appreciative.

Also- it's not too much to ask for a quick text/call in the morning and again at night to say goodnight. The other 23.5 hours he can have to himself.

Boys2mam Sun 18-Sep-11 21:39:20

My DP and I have what most would consider a "normal" relationship in that a weekend away allows freedom but consideration. Ignoring texts would not fall within this remit.

Bohica Sun 18-Sep-11 21:41:12

He sounds selfish. His children waited for him to send promised pics but he was to trollied to talk to them? Nice.

Bubbles007 Sun 18-Sep-11 21:43:02

sooo ... Another moan from the boring wife? Lucky me sad or shrug it off and let it rip another hole in my pride and self esteem ? Seriously this is not nice feeling

Bubbles007 Sun 18-Sep-11 21:43:35

sooo ... Another moan from the boring wife? Lucky me sad or shrug it off and let it rip another hole in my pride and self esteem ? Seriously this is not nice feeling

NestaFiesta Sun 18-Sep-11 21:44:15

*he calls and asks if he is in trouble*- I hate it when blokes do this- it makes them sound like a cute naughty schoolboy and you're the nasty villain.

He's let his kids down and not shown you enough appreciation or consideration. How would he like it if the shoe was on the other foot?

NestaFiesta Sun 18-Sep-11 21:44:40

Why didn't my bold work?

ScribblerInTheSpaces Sun 18-Sep-11 21:44:41

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SwingingBetty Sun 18-Sep-11 21:45:37

gawd my old man phones me at least twice a day when away but thats more than likely down to being bored than wanting particularly to chat with me lol

i dont think a day would pass without some contact though, it just wouldnt

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy Sun 18-Sep-11 21:46:07

This is a case of what's sauce for the goose.... etc.

Where are you going for your 4 day jolly?

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy Sun 18-Sep-11 21:49:10

he calls and asks if he is in trouble Nothing naughty schoolboy about it at all Nesta - that's a man that knows damn well he's been a selfish git and he knew it every time he failed to text/call/send pix, but that didn't stop him putting himself first.

Bubbles007 Sun 18-Sep-11 21:50:21

Eye for an eye ? Jollys are great for a marriage, not good when other half is left feeling pushed out, forgotten, out of sight and mind ...

Bubbles007 Sun 18-Sep-11 22:08:41

rolling pin and horse whip out! shame they are being used for an argument ;)

NestaFiesta Sun 18-Sep-11 23:19:59

Izzy- I know- it is the DH who is painting himself that way. What I see is a selfish git trying to make his wife look like the bad guy that he's "in trouble" with. Total gittery.

FabbyChic Sun 18-Sep-11 23:21:57

He has gone away and is acting the single man, he seems to forget a Mrs and children at home.

You are more serious problems to be honest and I'd consider where you want this relationship to go.

takingbackmonday Mon 19-Sep-11 01:24:53


DP and I are in separate countries this week - him for work, me for sun - and I'd be pretty upset if I hadn't heard from him or he was too trashed to get in touch. As it happens he;s sent so many messages I wish he'd bugger off and let me sunbathe, I don't need to hear about every bloody detail.

Sounds like a selfish git. You are not moaning to expect some contact, that's before you factor in your DDs.

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