Really nervous posting here - go gently on me!
A few weeks ago we offered our friend our spare room until 15th October, as she's starting a new job up here this coming week. The conditions were:
- We're not charging her rent, so she'll find it easier to save up for a deposit and rent on a place mid-October
- We will need £10 for gas, as we're on a meter and a budget, too.
- No visitors after 11pm. I am 34 weeks pregnant, and need my rest - DP is a shift worker and needs to have peace and quiet.
- No house parties. DP and I are 31, we've done the all nighters we need until the baby arrives...
- She has to help out with communal chores.
She's 22, and a lovely girl, but here are a few reasons why I'm worried:
- She's coming up here on a budget. I had to sit down with her and make that budget because "Money is so hard to figure out"... Her first week here she'll have £19 for food, tobacco and travel, so I'm worrying we'll have to feed her too (which would not be a problem if she asks us about it, but previous experience tells me it will be a last minute "Oh I'm so hungry" pity fest...)
- She is reckless with money - you'll see a theme. She is very immature with finance as she's been living off "bank of mum and dad" for years.
- Her first action when she found out she'd got the job was to arrange a party in a privately owned field opposite my house. When I asked where people would sleep and use the toilet etc, she did a "Oh, yeah, your house?". See condition 4...
- She's already lived in several houses in her current home town, and amassed various debts with her former house mates. Now, I've pre-empted this by saying "Don't worry about rent or bills" - but it still makes me a bit on edge.
- I've told her she needs to be out by 15th October, but I'm eyeing up her salary and thinking there's no way she'll get together a deposit and first month's rent from what she's earning in the first month (£6.50/hour, 40 hours - about £208/week net)
What do I do if I'm 2 weeks away from my due date (31st October) and she goes "I have no where to live, can I stay please?"
What do I do when she spends all her money and we end up having to pay for her food?
AIBU to think that I shouldn't have agreed to this, and that she's going to drive me up the walls?