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To think I might have been dumped by this friend?

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Bumsnetter Sat 17-Sep-11 20:33:08

Her family live on our road and we've known them for about 2 years. Her DS's used to constantly be coming round as well as her DH who got on well with my DH. She would often pop in for cups of tea.

I haven't seen her for over a month, I have texted to invite her round but she always has an excuse. I have bumped into her a few times and she always seems very happy to see me and the last time I saw her she said she would come over that afternoon. She didn't turn up and sent a text to say she forgot she had to run into town. I saw her the next day and she apologised before saying she had to run as was late...

I'm not a weirdo and really can't think of anything I have done to offend her, I've never been in this situation before and not sure how to handle it, aibu to think I may have been 'dumped' or am I being paranoid?

MangoMonster Sat 17-Sep-11 20:35:23

Maybe she has something going on herself. Try talking to her about it if you want to keep the friendship.

Bumsnetter Sat 17-Sep-11 20:37:54

I've tried but I don't know what else to do, I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable incase she really doesn't want to see me!

MangoMonster Sat 17-Sep-11 20:49:07

Well, if you've tried, maybe just give her some time. These things happen and you may never know the reason. Don't let it get you down.

gurgling Sat 17-Sep-11 20:55:29

It's either something private going on in her life, or your dc has really upset her dc. I would guess.

notherdaynotherdollar Sat 17-Sep-11 22:00:49

she is having an affair obviously , leave the bastard

Bumsnetter Sat 17-Sep-11 22:01:43

grin

AgentZigzag Sat 17-Sep-11 22:20:45

Most friendships have times where you don't see each other as often as normal.

If she hasn't talked to you about something you might have done to upset her, then you have to presume it's not you.

I mean you can hardly do anything about it if she's not told you can you?

I would leave the ball in her court for a while, if she hasn't contacted you after say a month, you could send a 'how are you doing?' text or email, and if she's still being distant then leave her to it.

Fiendishlie Sat 17-Sep-11 22:28:46

Yeah, I think I read her thread last month about your unreasonable behaviour grin Everyone told her to make excuses like she was in a rush and had to go...

cheeseandmarmitesandwich Sun 18-Sep-11 08:06:48

A month isn't that long tbh, I go through phases like this. Not on purpose, just when you've got kids and their activities plus various friends and family time gets booked up very quickly! We've been manically busy the last month or so and I've hardly seen any of my mum friends <eyes OP suspiciously in case I am the offender...>

Plus it's been the summer holidays, she could have been away or had friends staying etc.

cheeseandmarmitesandwich Sun 18-Sep-11 08:06:50

A month isn't that long tbh, I go through phases like this. Not on purpose, just when you've got kids and their activities plus various friends and family time gets booked up very quickly! We've been manically busy the last month or so and I've hardly seen any of my mum friends <eyes OP suspiciously in case I am the offender...>

Plus it's been the summer holidays, she could have been away or had friends staying etc.

fedupofnamechanging Sun 18-Sep-11 08:27:25

I think you should leave it be - stay friendly when you see her but let her be the one to either come round or invite you over.

LoveBeingAMummyAgain Sun 18-Sep-11 08:28:39

No-one ever thinks they are a weirdo grin

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