you no longer seem like the man I married and are turning into a self obsessed middle aged twit!
He asked to me iron his shirt for him this morning (I haven't a problem with that at all), but then followed up by saying as you do it so well and never leave any creases. That was with reference to yesterday when i did one and he said he was going to do it again as there was still a crease. I couldn't see it till I looked very closely, you know sometimes you get what I call a shadow crease, so feint you can hardly see it, the residue from a really tough crease. He'd have had deeper ones from sitting in the car by the time he got to work. At that point I told him he had issues about looking so pristine, maybe a tad OCD about his appearance.
TBH that spurred me on to my opening comment after his behavior last night. He was due to go out and meet 2 friends, he's known them since they all went to school together, for golf and some drinks.
About an hour and a half before he was due to go he was playing with DC's in the garden. I was doing tea, having some time out from DC's. His mum turned up to drop off some ironing that she's kindly done for us (she is lovely.) Dh forgot youngest DD (17m) was on the trampoline (with side netting of course) and came in to see his mum for a few minutes. The other DC's followed.
I suddenly realised DD3 was not with him and asked where she was, just then heard an ear splitting scream from the back garden. DD1 and I rushed out to find her in a heap on the floor next to trampoline with a bruise/graze, slight swelling on her head. She'd fallen approx 2ft but we don't know whether she toppled forward and landed head first or hit the ground in any other way and then hit her head. Some grass some paving slabs, again not sure where she hit?
She was very distressed for quite some time not even wanting her fave blueberries for at least an hour. I was in two minds wheteher or not to take her to A&E. DH said she was fine and I was overeacting. My mum was happy to come over and watch the other DC's. DH then said I suppose i should cancel tonight? A question not a statement. I knew he'd whine about missing his night out if they gave her the all clear so told him to go I'd let him know how she was later.
Mum came round and she began to perk up a bit, even giggled and DS's crazy antics and she was looking tired. We checked her eyes for any signs of obvious brain injury and they seemed fine, so i gave her her regular meds for severe reflux but not her sedative as i didn't want her too drowsy so i could keep an eye on her. (Without it she's normally awake and screaming for hours by about 1am, doctor prescribed as well.) Text DH to say this was plan.
Gave her a lovely cuddle and BF to sleep very easily, she was exhausted, could her her refluxing though, the stress seemed to have made it worse.
Within 1/2hr she was awake and crying, took her into my dark bedroom and cuddled her, but very stressy, dozing then hysterical crying in cycles. Text DH at 10pm to say was taking her back downstairs as she was very unhappy.
TBH I though at this point he might have decided to come home, he had to pick up DD1 (17) and her friend en route but they were just waiting around for him anyway, had finished their meal out and were wondering round taking photographs (A level courses.)
Called mum back round at 10.30, not sure whether to take her up to A&E again. She calmed a bit but still v unsettled. In the end I rang A&E, explained all, they eventually we agreed give her normal sedative but sleep her next to me in bedside cot rather than in own room, and keep checking her through the night.
DH eventually arrived home at 12.10. Said he'd left where they were at 10.45, dropped mate off, collected girls then come home. Timings do seem about right.
I wouldn't have gone out last night at all, but it would have been my decision based on my feelings for DC's and I wouldn't have worried about not seeing friends under these circumstances, and i certainly wouldn't have hung around another 45m when i had a long journey home if DH was struggling in this situation.
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paranoidandroidwreckmyownlife · 17/09/2011 08:34
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