AIBU to want to smack someone that doesn't know me call me "hun"m "pet", "love" ... its so patronising!

[scuzy]

and also see it at the end of posts (thankfully not on here) these feckin xxxx (kisses) and "ah hun" and "pet".

eugh makes my skin crawl!

[Valpollicella]

Aw chick, don't worry your lovely self about it bubs.

It's all meant to be be friendly, sweets.

[madhattershouse]

Calm down dear!


But YANBU. None of these people know you, pet names are reserved for friends and relatives IMO.

[scuzy]

thats a new one.... bubs?!?

still dont like it. like one lad in work calling me "babe" .... i aint your effin babe asswipe!

[snippywoo2]

how do you want people that dont know you to address you, ma'm

[messybessie]

Oh I don't know - I don't mind the odd darling or sweetheart. Depends on the circumstance though.

Our local car park attendant calls me darling and I don't mind that. If someone at work did it though I'd rip their arm off.

[snippywoo2]

It's not patronising its a regional thing

[snippywoo2]

My mums from Bath and calls everyone love

[Crosshair]

I find it abit , but each to their own.

[scuzy]

snippy they can just say hi and then continue with whatever they want.

perhaps it is a regional thing. i'm in ireland and eugh i hate it. its not that common (well not to me) but sounds so insincere and patronising.

[AgentZigzag]

I would use pet or love in a sympathetic way, such as 'Awww your DS doesn't like fruitshoots pet? Have you tried him with coke?'

And I love being called petal/me duck/treacle (although that's only by Pete Beale if I think about it).

It's friendly.

Bubs and hon would leave me feeling violated however, and the kisses uneasy.

[scuzy]

ha ha "feeling violated" .. yes thats it!!

[magicmummy1]

I don't mind. We get called "duck" around my way. DH isn't from the UK and finds it really weird, but I quite like it tbh.

Don't mind love or pet, either but can't abide "hun" and I'd swipe anyone who dared to call me babe!

[FlumpsRule]

I get really wound up when cold callers dare to address me by my first name, rather than 'Mrs.. ' etc. Sometimes they even shorten my name . I guess they must be taught to do this???!

"... You don't mind if I call you ..."
" YES I BLOODY DO, YOU DISRESPECTFUL LITTLE .... Now push off" slam

Only I am never that rude to them.

[AgentZigzag]

So in what way do you find it patronising scuzy?

[scuzy]

i just do! i dunno!

and dont touch the hair spent ages straightening it today. and what am i supposed to do with a sixpence??? whats the euro exchange on that

[snippywoo2]

fiumpsrule I hate it when doctors call you by your first name but you are expected to adress them as Mr

[pissedrightoff]

I tend to say darling or sweetheart to people.Or I used to.
I was working as a door host in a busy family restaurant within a hotel, While seating a family of three I pulled the chair out for the little girl and said 'There you are Darling' The mother looked at me as if I was something she had trodden in.
It made me feel terrible, Quite obvious I wasn't being patronising and was just being nice.

[FlumpsRule]

Snippywoo2 Luckily my Dr must realise this - they call out both first & surname and I never address him at all!

[snippywoo2]

I find it quite sad that nowadays people in this country are put off/looked down upon for using words/sayings from their regional/local way of speaking due to fear of offending, when no offence is intended. Surely there's worse things going on in the world that you should worrying about rather than being offended by someone calling you love or sweetheart or darling.

[BreeVanDerTramp]

I think (but I may be drunk) that scuzy means on 'net, not in RL am I right hun

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[LadyBeagleEyes]

I agree with snippywoo.
It's sweet and imo rather charming.
I do not get why anybody would get upset by this.

[AgentZigzag]

Children are in a different catagory though pissedrightoff, I would tag on 'gorgeous' if I was talking to a child, in a way I wouldn't necessarily with an adult.

at the scenarios where it'd be hilariously inappropriate.

Scuzy is discussing snippy, rather than implying it's the end of the world as we know it.

[qo]

It's chick or lass round here, it's just a part of the language - everyone says it

[AurraSing]

My grandmother called everyone 'cock'. Can't wait till I'm old enough to start using it myself.

[usualsuspect]

Don't worry about it M'duck