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AIBU to want to smack someone that doesn't know me call me "hun"m "pet", "love" ... its so patronising!

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scuzy Fri 16-Sep-11 23:32:53

and also see it at the end of posts (thankfully not on here) these feckin xxxx (kisses) and "ah hun" and "pet".

eugh makes my skin crawl!

Valpollicella Fri 16-Sep-11 23:35:24

Aw chick, don't worry your lovely self about it bubs.

It's all meant to be be friendly, sweets.


madhattershouse Fri 16-Sep-11 23:36:12

Calm down dear!grin

But YANBU. None of these people know you, pet names are reserved for friends and relatives IMO.

scuzy Fri 16-Sep-11 23:36:22

thats a new one.... bubs?!?

still dont like it. like one lad in work calling me "babe" .... i aint your effin babe asswipe!

snippywoo2 Fri 16-Sep-11 23:37:18

how do you want people that dont know you to address you, ma'm

messybessie Fri 16-Sep-11 23:38:08

Oh I don't know - I don't mind the odd darling or sweetheart. Depends on the circumstance though.

Our local car park attendant calls me darling and I don't mind that. If someone at work did it though I'd rip their arm off.

snippywoo2 Fri 16-Sep-11 23:38:40

It's not patronising its a regional thing

snippywoo2 Fri 16-Sep-11 23:39:45

My mums from Bath and calls everyone love

Crosshair Fri 16-Sep-11 23:40:03

I find it abit hmm, but each to their own.

scuzy Fri 16-Sep-11 23:40:23

snippy they can just say hi and then continue with whatever they want.

perhaps it is a regional thing. i'm in ireland and eugh i hate it. its not that common (well not to me) but sounds so insincere and patronising.

AgentZigzag Fri 16-Sep-11 23:43:58

I would use pet or love in a sympathetic way, such as 'Awww your DS doesn't like fruitshoots pet? Have you tried him with coke?'

And I love being called petal/me duck/treacle (although that's only by Pete Beale if I think about it).

It's friendly.

Bubs and hon would leave me feeling violated however, and the kisses uneasy.

scuzy Fri 16-Sep-11 23:44:48

ha ha "feeling violated" .. yes thats it!!

magicmummy1 Fri 16-Sep-11 23:45:31

I don't mind. We get called "duck" around my way. DH isn't from the UK and finds it really weird, but I quite like it tbh. grin

Don't mind love or pet, either but can't abide "hun" and I'd swipe anyone who dared to call me babe!

FlumpsRule Fri 16-Sep-11 23:49:04

I get really wound up when cold callers dare to address me by my first name, rather than 'Mrs.. ' etc. Sometimes they even shorten my name angry. I guess they must be taught to do this???!

"... You don't mind if I call you ..."

Only I am never that rude to them.

AgentZigzag Fri 16-Sep-11 23:49:09

So in what way do you find it patronising scuzy?

<ruffles scuzys hair and hands over a shiny sixpence for sweets>

scuzy Fri 16-Sep-11 23:50:26

i just do! i dunno!

and dont touch the hair spent ages straightening it today. and what am i supposed to do with a sixpence??? whats the euro exchange on that

snippywoo2 Fri 16-Sep-11 23:51:41

fiumpsrule I hate it when doctors call you by your first name but you are expected to adress them as Mr

pissedrightoff Fri 16-Sep-11 23:54:17

I tend to say darling or sweetheart to people.Or I used to.
I was working as a door host in a busy family restaurant within a hotel, While seating a family of three I pulled the chair out for the little girl and said 'There you are Darling' The mother looked at me as if I was something she had trodden in.
It made me feel terrible, Quite obvious I wasn't being patronising and was just being nice.

FlumpsRule Sat 17-Sep-11 00:14:26

Snippywoo2 Luckily my Dr must realise this - they call out both first & surname and I never address him at all!

snippywoo2 Sat 17-Sep-11 00:15:18

I find it quite sad that nowadays people in this country are put off/looked down upon for using words/sayings from their regional/local way of speaking due to fear of offending, when no offence is intended. Surely there's worse things going on in the world that you should worrying about rather than being offended by someone calling you love or sweetheart or darling.

BreeVanDerTramp Sat 17-Sep-11 00:19:15

I think (but I may be drunk) that scuzy means on 'net, not in RL am I right hun grin


LadyBeagleEyes Sat 17-Sep-11 00:23:37

I agree with snippywoo.
It's sweet and imo rather charming.
I do not get why anybody would get upset by this.

AgentZigzag Sat 17-Sep-11 00:24:33

Children are in a different catagory though pissedrightoff, I would tag on 'gorgeous' if I was talking to a child, in a way I wouldn't necessarily with an adult.

grin at the scenarios where it'd be hilariously inappropriate.

Scuzy is discussing snippy, rather than implying it's the end of the world as we know it.

qo Sat 17-Sep-11 00:26:09

It's chick or lass round here, it's just a part of the language - everyone says it

AurraSing Sat 17-Sep-11 00:28:45

My grandmother called everyone 'cock'. Can't wait till I'm old enough to start using it myself.

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