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Being precious 3rd born or not? Need kick up backside

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mollycuddles Fri 16-Sep-11 08:35:59

Dd2 is 15 months - waited a long time for her. Ds is 13, dd1 is 10. I work full time and dh is sahd. After she was born I decided I needed to get thinner and fit as I've a fair few years of work ahead of me to get her raised! Expensive things dcs. To my amazement I've taken up running and despite lifelong sloth and snail like speed I am addicted. Dh is doing a 10k run next Saturday and he wants me to do it too. I can do the distance and would love to do it. But my dps are away and I haven't left dd2 with anyone but dh or them. My good friend and neighbour has offered. Dd1 will be there too along with my friend's daughters who are in and out of our house all the time and dd2 adores them. She also knows my friend. Me and dh would be away maybe 2 hours. During the late morning/over lunch so the fact that dd2 doesn't sleep won't matter. Friend very happy to play with dd2, cuddle her, feed her. She will be fine. Right? But I won't be contactable or able to get home quicker if anything goes wrong.
I think I'm being ridiculous but I'm conflicted. In many ways I'm much more chilled mummy as I'm older but seems I'm not above being p3rdb

Advice wanted

StrandedBear Fri 16-Sep-11 08:39:12

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whackamole Fri 16-Sep-11 08:40:07

Stop being daft and do the run!

brainwashed Fri 16-Sep-11 08:40:43

DD2 will be fine. Go and enjoy your 1st 10k race...may it be the first of many!
Good Luck and let us know how you get on.

Northernlurker Fri 16-Sep-11 08:41:01

I have a p3rdb too. Yes you are being a dafty trousers. Mine was always very happy with her sisters - still is. Your friend is a presumably a capable parent and your dd benefits from you and your dh strengthening your relationshio by doing things together.

Get your running shoes on! Good luck smile

Weta Fri 16-Sep-11 08:41:11

She'll be fine, just do it!

JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns Fri 16-Sep-11 08:42:08

I'm more p2ndb so I know where your coming from but DO IT!! Think amazing you'll feel after smile

Besom Fri 16-Sep-11 08:42:43

Objectively, she knows the neighbour, you trust her, it is only two hours. She will be fine. You should go and enjoy your run.

Although I know exactly how you feel.

She'll be fine, the chances of your friend needing to contact you are so slim as to be non existent, I think you should go for it (although I would have felt exactly the same with either of mine at that age).

golemmings Fri 16-Sep-11 09:39:38

If you know anyone else who is running do they have a friend/support crew who will be hanging around to cheer on runners?

I race kayaks and started racing again when DD was 6 months. I'd take her to races in her buggy, feed her, change her and find someone to leave her with whilst I was on the water (technically 40 mins but as team leader and needing to warm up, generally it was an hour). The first person I left her with I knew as team leader for another club but there was one race when DD was 9-10 months where Chris wasn't there and I had to leave DD with the parents/support crew of another team. I didn't know this woman's name but I knew her kids and her husband and most of the other folk she was with and she's a nursery nurse so I figured she's cope and DD would be happy.

Now I just turn up to races and know that someone will have DD whilst I'm on the water. She's an honorary member/mascot of several midlands clubs; I owe a huge number of favours to a huge number of people but I've got lots of new friends through it! With DC2 on the way, I'm wondering who will be prepared to have a 6 month baby AND a 2.5 yr old toddler when the season begins next spring but I'm sure somebody will have them.

Oblomov Fri 16-Sep-11 09:41:28

You numpty. When you write it down, it sounds even worse, even more pfb, right ? Get your trainers on and go and have a good time.

golemmings Fri 16-Sep-11 10:10:40

I'm with Meinmytree tbh, harsh though it may be.

When I was small my bf and I were inseparable; most people assumed we were sisters they just didn't know which set of parents we belonged to and we stayed over at each others' houses from the age of about 5.

I was brought up to be pretty independent whilst my bf was brought up to know that everything was OK if mummy was there.

At 7 when our parents came to choose brownie packs we had the choice of two in town; the one that went on pack holidays and the one that didn't. My mum was all for sending me away because she thought I'd enjoy it whilst BF's mum wanted the other because she didn't think that BF would want to go away without mummy.

When we moved house to the next town and I had to change brownies I got to go on pack holiday and I was thrilled. One post card home to the parents and a week hanging out with my mates was brilliant. I'd only been in the pack for 6 weeks or so and got to get to know people really well.

That was followed by several years of guide camp etc - a weekend and a week every summer. I don't remember anyone being homesick from the week camp. I guess only those who wanted a week away without parents chose/were allowed to go and the weekend camp was the perfect opportunity to see whether you liked sleeping under canvas with your patrol, emptying chemical toilets, and being given a bowl of hot water every evening to have a wash in. Camp was the highlight of my year! I was gutted when I had to give up guides.

Oh, and for the record, BF did eventually go to guide camp at 11 or 12 and loved it as much as I did!

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