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To be shocked at grandmother leaving a 13 month old in a pub on her own

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TheAlphaParent Wed 14-Sep-11 19:25:22

My mum and I took my 13 month old daughter to Wetherspoons for a meal (6pm). The bar is in a different room to the seating area. The pub was crowded. I went to the bar to order the food whilst mum sat with my daughter. Whilst I was at the bar mum came up to me and told me that she had found a bigger table. She had left my daughter on her own in a crowded pub to come and tell me that. I nearly had a heart attack and sent her back immediately. Needless to say I gave mum a good bollocking. Her response? "Sorry I'm not perfect".

AIBU to be shocked? How could a fellow mother be so negligent?

spiderpig8 Wed 14-Sep-11 19:27:07

She must have only left her for a few seconds YAB bit U

troisgarcons Wed 14-Sep-11 19:27:59

YABU and a bit hysterical TBH.

HairyGrotter Wed 14-Sep-11 19:28:11

Was your daughter and mother in the same room as you whilst ordering drinks? YABU taking anyone to a Whetherspoons

allhailtheaubergine Wed 14-Sep-11 19:28:34

What do you mean by "gave mum a good bollocking"?

BeerTricksPotter Wed 14-Sep-11 19:28:36

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

RedOnion Wed 14-Sep-11 19:29:29

YABU. What do you think would have happened in the approx 120 seconds??

(and surely most people in a Wetherspoons are too pissed to stand up let alone pinch a baby?)

TheAlphaParent Wed 14-Sep-11 19:30:18

Was your daughter and mother in the same room as you whilst ordering drinks

- no. The bar is up some strairs in a completely different room.

What do you mean by "gave mum a good bollocking"?

- I told her that she must never leave the baby alone in public ever.

May I also add that daughter is PFB blush

Kayano Wed 14-Sep-11 19:30:29

Ffs your thread title suggests that your
Mum took the baby to the pub and LEFT THE Pub!!!

She didn't... YAB a bit U to have bollocked her imo

worraliberty Wed 14-Sep-11 19:30:57


Whetherspoons pubs are notorious for child snatchers who huddle in groups under the tables, waiting for a mother to nip to the bar for a few seconds....

MrsJamin Wed 14-Sep-11 19:31:04


AmazingBouncingFerret Wed 14-Sep-11 19:31:14

The last thing anyone in wetherspoons would want to do would be pinch a baby, it would get in the way of their drinking time.

iskra Wed 14-Sep-11 19:31:16


TheAlphaParent Wed 14-Sep-11 19:31:56

Totally worraliberty wink

troisgarcons Wed 14-Sep-11 19:32:21

Ah - you can always tell a first time mother !

by the time you've had 10 kids you'll be a little more relaxed.

mumeeee Wed 14-Sep-11 19:32:23

YABU. Yea perhaps your Mum shouldn't have left your DD. But it would only have been for a few seconds and she just made a mistake. As she said she's not perfect. There was no reason to have a go at her.

TheOriginalFAB Wed 14-Sep-11 19:32:28

YABU to take a "baby out for a meal" at that time.

You sound very disrespectful to your mother. Clearly she has brought up a child and thought it was okay to leave the baby for a couple of minutes if that. She is hardly going to risk the safety of her grandchild. Maybe she could have done a better job with teaching her child manners though.

TheAlphaParent Wed 14-Sep-11 19:33:02

Pinching isn't the only negative risk. My daughter was distressed at being left alone in a crowded place. She was in tears when I got back.

SinicalSal Wed 14-Sep-11 19:33:18

I'd be more worried if she left a 13 YEAR old in wetherspoons on their own tbh,

RedOnion Wed 14-Sep-11 19:34:13

Anyone wanna go wetherspoons? MN group discount? grin

SinicalSal Wed 14-Sep-11 19:34:22

Though I agree with you, I wouldn't have left her out of my eyeline, certainly not on a different floor.

BeerTricksPotter Wed 14-Sep-11 19:34:24

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

spiderpig8 Wed 14-Sep-11 19:35:08

I bet you'll be on here in a few years complaining your mother never offers to baby sit!

HairyGrotter Wed 14-Sep-11 19:35:15

I'll have double vodka and Redbull, along with some Garlic Breaded Mushrooms with a side of Drunk old man who smells of piss chatting me up. Ta xx

Catsmamma Wed 14-Sep-11 19:35:19

and how was the cosy catch up chit chat over the meal???

YABU! for soooooooooooooooo many reasons.

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