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osd Tue 13-Sep-11 19:11:48

Ds nearly 3, potty trained, so we took the gate off his room so he can us the toilet as the potty is to small.

Tonight I go upstairs as I can here him, go into the bathroom the hot taps are on full (this has happened before so that I had no hot water in the morning) but in the sink is a used tampon, ok yuk I can't flush them as we have a leachfield, so I put them in a small bin; emptied every morning. The two dirty nappies are on a low shelf and the other tampon hes tried to shove down the bidet plughole there is water all over the floor. All he says to me is 'done a poo poo mammy' aarghh!

So I said no Fireman Sam in the morning and yes I did tap his bum not hard but he already knew I was mad. There has been similar antics every night this week. So I had already sent him to bed with 'be a good boy and go straight to sleep and you can watch Fireman Sam' So disappointed with him, and I should have pulled the handles off the taps.

So AIBU what should I do with him, I am fed up I am almost past parenting him he is so difficult.

GypsyMoth Tue 13-Sep-11 19:14:16

Use nappy sacks or something!!! That's quite,er...gross

Honeydragon Tue 13-Sep-11 19:14:33

I'd first and foremost get you to report your thread to HQ and ask for it to be moved to behaviour & development or parenting. You will be more likely to get the advice / response you need smile

osd Tue 13-Sep-11 19:15:09

Yes I do he had pulled them open and yes v. gross.

AuntieMonica Tue 13-Sep-11 19:15:29

He's still 2 years old, and is not ready to be left to go to the toilet by himself, by the sounds of it.

Put his stair gate back up before he does himself some harm and please don't punish him for being a very young child.

pranma Tue 13-Sep-11 19:16:36

I think he was trying hard to be good and if you give a 3 year old access to the bathroom unsupervised then you shouldnt leave dirty used stuff where he can gat them YABU

pranma Tue 13-Sep-11 19:16:47


squeakytoy Tue 13-Sep-11 19:17:45

To be fair, it is really your own fault for leaving items like that where an inquisitive toddler can get an easy hold of them. Be thankful there were no razor blades in the bin... and thankful that he didnt scald himself with the hot water.

The bin needs to be out of reach somehow.

BatsUpMeNightie Tue 13-Sep-11 19:17:45

Just ewwwwwwwwwww @ anyone being able to find a used tampon ffs! And used nappies too?


osd Tue 13-Sep-11 19:20:09

Where else do I put the bin, its in a bin he doesn't go in the kitchen bin, and he is fine to use the toilet by himself through the day, this is just bedtime behavior. I love him to bits, I just want him to stay in bed.

Sharney Tue 13-Sep-11 19:21:55

Agree with Honey and Auntie. At his age not really a punishable offence although absolutely frustrating. Good luck! grin

KittyFane Tue 13-Sep-11 19:21:56

Put tampons/dirty nappies in nappy sacs and take to big bin straight away... Don't leave in bathroom bin at all sad
2 is a bit young to be left alone in bathroom- (water/hot water could be dangerous)

BluddyMoFo Tue 13-Sep-11 19:22:00

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

KittyFane Tue 13-Sep-11 19:23:28

Big bin- outside

Sirzy Tue 13-Sep-11 19:23:29

Don't give him lone access to the bathroom if you can't trust him, to many dangerous things in there to be alone so young.

Mandy2003 Tue 13-Sep-11 19:26:38

Do you have a downstairs toilet he could use? If so, limit him to that. My DS was happy to just use that one, it had his star chart in it and allsorts. Turn your hot water thermostat down to avoid scalds.

Otherwise, keep the sanpro/nappy bin in your bedroom (under dressing table or behind the door etc) unless you can take these things outside straight away.

anewyear Tue 13-Sep-11 19:27:47

Used tampons and nappies in nappy sack and straight in the dustbin!!
Empty daily before he goes to bed!!

squeakytoy Tue 13-Sep-11 19:27:51

Fix a small bin to the wall. High up.

CurrySpice Tue 13-Sep-11 19:30:59

I would put the tampons in a nappy sack and take them downstairs to put in the outside bin

And put the stair gate back on his room

squeakytoy Tue 13-Sep-11 19:32:40

Most 3yr olds can get over a stair gate with no problem at all!

BarmyBiscuit Tue 13-Sep-11 19:32:53

My son has an en-suite and I had to lock it as he was practically flooding the place at bedtime. I took him to the bathroom myself. I have recently unlocked it and now a year later, he is fine with the toilet. He will grow out of it but in the meantime, take him to the toilet yourself. It's his age.

festi Tue 13-Sep-11 19:35:47

that is sheer filthy of you and you smaked him shock

MelodyPond Tue 13-Sep-11 19:40:21

Most two year olds can't get over a stairgate?! My Ds is 3 and he still has one on his bedroom door as I can't trust him upstairs on his own.

Get the stairgate back on asap, its really not safe.

squeakytoy Tue 13-Sep-11 19:42:31

Every 3 year old I know has been able to open the stairgate, never mind get over it! shock

MistyB Tue 13-Sep-11 19:42:47

Regarding the staying in bed but freedom to use the toilet - tricky!! Hang around upstairs until he is asleep. Try minimal contact, walk to the toilet and back to bed. He will soon get the message that bed time is not playtime. Ensure he goes to the toilet during the bedtime routine and again at the end.

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