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To be utterly ashamed and desperately guilty that DD has just had to have 3 fillings?

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DarcyBee Tue 13-Sep-11 18:17:18

As a child I was allowed sweets once a week and now have pretty good teeth. DH was allowed free rein and subsequently had 4 rotten front teeth bby the age of 4.

I thought I would be less militant than my parents with my DC's and allowed them biscuits and chocolate - no sweets or fizzy/sugary drinks though.

DD is 6 and has just had 3 fillings, we now allow them a chocolate bar on saturdays but I feel terrible.

HuwEdwards Tue 13-Sep-11 18:20:57

Maybe it's more about brushing did the dentist give you any advice about supervising and if necessary helping?

Either way, I think you're either being a bit dramatic or being very harsh on yourself smile. Presumably she's had baby teeth filled, so at least she has a second chance.

squeakytoy Tue 13-Sep-11 18:21:34

I rarely ate sweets as a child, by my own choice, because I didnt really like sweet things. I still needed fillings though. I did have to have a lot of medication though, due to a recurring throat infection. Medicine last thing at night was probably the cause of my tooth decay.

worraliberty Tue 13-Sep-11 18:22:44

Well some kids do have stronger teeth than others...and some dentists are more 'filling happy' than others.

A lot of dentists don't bother filling baby teeth unless they're causing some discomfort/pain and some prefer to pull them out.

Hard to say long as you know you're looking after them as best you can.

DarcyBee Tue 13-Sep-11 18:22:45

Sorry yes I am being dramatic, I just felt like such a dick when he gave me a hmm and asked whether I let them drink coke and fizzy drinks

bucaneve Tue 13-Sep-11 18:23:00

If you make your children brush their teeth twice a day which I'm sure you do then don't feel bad DarcyBee. I think most people are like you in allowing their kids biscuits and chocolate but not sweets or fizzy drinks.

Some people just have genetically weaker teeth than others. I had a filling or two buy that age and the dentist told my mum that it wasn't her fault (i.e. my diet was fine and he could see I brushed my teeth properly) and I just had weak teeth.

VegetablePatch Tue 13-Sep-11 18:23:07

YANBU to feel bad, but try not to beat yourself up too much, think about how you can help her look after her teeth well from now on.

It doesn't sound like you've done anything too bad by allowing her to have biscuits and chocolate. You don't mention oral hygiene though- is DD brushing her teeth at least twice a day, has she been shown how to brush properly, etc.? An alcohol free mouthwash after something sugary (if you're at home) might be an idea (but not brushing). Does she know not to brush straight after having fruit, orange juice etc.? Does she know not to have fruit or juice straight before going to bed?

You've caught the problem in time, so please don't feel too ashamed and guilty.

whackamole Tue 13-Sep-11 18:23:42

I also think it is more about brushing. I didn't drink anything apart from orange juice once I stopped breast-feeding, had fizzy drinks and sweets and tomato ketchup. I never had a filling until I was 18, and I'm pretty sure that was my fault!

Also, don't brush too soon after eating. It takes half an hour for the natural enzymes to start neutralising the bad stuff, so don't brush that away.

But don't feel too bad. It happens! My OH is the same as yours BTW - negligent mother (literally) he has a mouth full of metal now.

elegangle Tue 13-Sep-11 18:23:52

Don't feel bad. Some peoples teeth are just more resilient than others. I don't have the best of teeth but practise excellent oral hygiene. I spoke to a dentist about it and he informed me that teeth are really affected by genetics. If your DH has poor teeth then there is a good chance that your children will too.
Having just read that through it sounds like terrible advice...sorry about that. I guess what I want to say is that it is not your fault, don't beat yourself up over this. Just make sure she brushes properly twice a day. Do you use an electric toothbrush? What exactly did the dentist say?

DarcyBee Tue 13-Sep-11 18:24:15

He said biscuits are one of the worst things as they stick to the teeth

DarcyBee Tue 13-Sep-11 18:25:29

He said keep brushing twice a day and lay of the sugar! Oh and always dilute natural fruit juice with lots of water which we do anyway

HuwEdwards Tue 13-Sep-11 18:26:56

well I guess with the remark about fizzy drinks was going down the blindingly bloody obvious route, but a half-decent diet and thorough brushing twice a day goes a long way to reducing the damage to teeth.

You know you can get (furiously expensive) kids mouthwash? Might help a bit if the brushing isn't perfect.

HuwEdwards Tue 13-Sep-11 18:28:38

and dried fruit (which my 2 ate their own body weight in) is apparently the food of the cavity-devil. Stick to teeth like shit to a blanket grin

Grumpystiltskin Tue 13-Sep-11 18:30:31

Biscuits & chocolate = sugary drinks sadly. Refined Sugar is refined sugar & whilst YABU to beat yourself up over it, you wouldn't BU to stop the sugary things. Once or twice a week or only at mealtimes is fine. It's not the amount of sugar, it's the number of times a day that is the charmer. Whether you brush your teeth or not.

Fayrazzled Tue 13-Sep-11 18:32:21

My dentist doesn't recommend mouthwash (even the so called children's mouthwash) for children. He says if you are brushing correctly (preferably with an electric toothbrush, then the mouthwash adds nothing of benefit).

OP- do you have fluoride added to your water locally? We don't in my area and the dentist uses fluoride gel on the children's molars, which can heklp to reduce cavities.

Feminine Tue 13-Sep-11 18:32:59

Don't feel bad.

One of mine was born with no enamel on his back teeth,now is capped to high heaven.

One has no problems ,although he has the oral hygiene habits of a monkey!

My youngest has to have 2 tiny fillings as two of her baby teeth have very deep grooves.

Here in the US I have never been made to feel bad ,I appreciate that as I have always been very careful with brushing and flossing.

The good news is, my poor capped son has excellent second teeth,with no deep grooves or problems.

I suspect your DD will be fine toosmile

coccyx Tue 13-Sep-11 18:35:19

wow that is a lot.

Feminine Tue 13-Sep-11 18:41:43

coccyx confused

DarcyBee Tue 13-Sep-11 18:48:18

Can anyone recommend calorific food which doesn't rot teeth or contain nasty additives.. ?

DarcyBee Tue 13-Sep-11 18:49:06

We've wittled it down to rice cakes with butter, apples, cheese, ham & homous!

Grumpystiltskin Tue 13-Sep-11 18:51:21

I second the post re brushing properly being a hundred fold more useful than mouthwash. Think of brushing as like cleaning your shoes with a brush. Just rinsing them with water (the mouthwash) won't help at all.

You could ask about the Fluoride varnish. Recent studies have shown that those who have Fluoride varnish (paste, usually tastes like banana) applied by a dental professional (dentist, hygienist, nurse) twice a year have 66% less decay than those who don't. That's even for adults.

Cheese is great for teeth btw!

Sharney Tue 13-Sep-11 18:53:00

What Femimine said about deep grooves. Very true! Mine are like canyons and I've had terrible problems. Nothing to do with oral hygiene. Just bad luck.

Avinalarf Tue 13-Sep-11 18:59:36

I had a mouthful of sisters as a child, my sister had none. I didn't much like sweets and brushed my teeth religiously. She ate Fireballs and Sherbet dabs by the bucketload and often 'forgot' to brush. Some people do just have weaker teeth than others.

Supervise brushing or brush for him, though. My 6 yr old is very slap dash with teeth cleaning and I do think at that age they still need a lot of guidance.

Avinalarf Tue 13-Sep-11 18:59:59

a mouthful of sisters? I meant a mouthful of fillings! I hope that wasn't a Freudian slip grin

Grumpystiltskin Tue 13-Sep-11 19:19:26

Made me laugh though!!

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