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starfishmummy Tue 13-Sep-11 09:58:10

DH has lost his wedding ring sad, he noticed yesterday. He always wears it so hasn't left it by the sink or anything. Has no idea where or when it slipped off and it could be anywhere and perhaps not even in the house.
We did some searching last night (pockets, down the side of the sofa etc) and I am looking today BUT it is bin day tomorrow so the bin bags need to come out and be searched tonight if it hasn't turned up.
DS (13yo) has SN and is incontinent; he currently has diarrhoea and there are loads of shitty incontinence pads in the bin - if I have changed him they will be neatly wrapped in a nappy sack [smug emoticon] but if DH has changed him they will just have been tossed in the bin.
So AIBU to make HIM search the rubbish while I sit and eat chocolate at the other end of the house?

Flisspaps Tue 13-Sep-11 09:59:29

YANBU.

It'll turn up somewhere nice and clean once he's finished rummaging in the shitty bin though wink

Sirzy Tue 13-Sep-11 09:59:43

Unless you are fairly sure it is in there then I wouldn't do it.

If it was your ring would you be willing to route through it?

squeakytoy Tue 13-Sep-11 09:59:43

I would be asking if any friends have a metal detector smile

belgo Tue 13-Sep-11 09:59:53

No of course you shouldn't have to search for it. Hand him the marigolds?

pramsgalore Tue 13-Sep-11 10:03:28

yes, make him go through the shit, even if you find it today grin maybe then he will wrap them up in a bag next time grin's somemore

starfishmummy Tue 13-Sep-11 10:38:19

I think at the very least he should lift the bin bags out of the wheelie to check it hasn't slipped in there when he was putting them in.

He is probably more upset about it than me, especially as I said he has to wait for our golden anniversary to get a new one - 34 years to go. Need to check our insurance to see if they will cough up but suspect the excess will be more than a new one costs (and thats assuming the receipt is still around.....)

Prams - after 13 years I doubt he will start using nappy sacks now grin

seeker Tue 13-Sep-11 10:41:09

Of course not! Buy him another one and give it to him over a glass of champagne. He didn't mean to lose it and probably feels awful that he has.

harassedandherbug Tue 13-Sep-11 10:47:28

I wouldn't do it, so YABU imo.

We've been married just over 2 yrs now and dh is currently ringless after losing two! He's a roofer and lost them both on site...

itisnearlysummer Tue 13-Sep-11 10:58:36

DH has lost his wedding ring. It fell off in the sea on the south coast about 3 weeks ago (in case anyone's come across it...)

It's a ring. Nothing more.

It hasn't changed our marriage.

I don't know if we'll replace it. Other people seem far more concerned about it than I am blush

SDTGisAnEvilGenius Tue 13-Sep-11 11:22:15

I think YABU to make him search the bin, if you have no good reason to think that the ring might be in there. It's not nice that he doesn't wrap the used inco pads before ditching them, though.

BaronessBomburst Tue 13-Sep-11 11:24:59

Ha ha! DH doesn't wrap nappies up either, just tosses them in the bin, so if DS chucks any toys in there he's the one to fish them out. grin

YANBU. I'd insist he checks, if only to teach him a lesson. grin grin

belgo Tue 13-Sep-11 11:26:17

you could argue it's less rubbish to degrade if you don't wrap up nappies.

I wouldn't make him search the bin - it's his ring, his decision.

messymammy Tue 13-Sep-11 11:29:46

I wouldn't do it myself or expect anyone else to. YABU

fanjobanjowanjo Tue 13-Sep-11 11:30:56

You can get biodegradable poop bags. At least definitely for dogs that I know of grin

Paschaelina Tue 13-Sep-11 11:31:15

If he wants to search the bin I would help him.

ChaoticAngeloftheUnderworld Tue 13-Sep-11 11:36:42

YANBU I wouldn't force him to look in the bin but I wouldn't help him if he decided to either.

starfishmummy Tue 13-Sep-11 11:40:57

he has emailed with some thoughts of where else he will look tonight. so fingers crossed!
And no, if he doesn't want to check through the contents of all the bin bags I wont make him!

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