to make DH search through the dustbin

[starfishmummy]

DH has lost his wedding ring , he noticed yesterday. He always wears it so hasn't left it by the sink or anything. Has no idea where or when it slipped off and it could be anywhere and perhaps not even in the house.
We did some searching last night (pockets, down the side of the sofa etc) and I am looking today BUT it is bin day tomorrow so the bin bags need to come out and be searched tonight if it hasn't turned up.
DS (13yo) has SN and is incontinent; he currently has diarrhoea and there are loads of shitty incontinence pads in the bin - if I have changed him they will be neatly wrapped in a nappy sack [smug emoticon] but if DH has changed him they will just have been tossed in the bin.
So AIBU to make HIM search the rubbish while I sit and eat chocolate at the other end of the house?

[Flisspaps]

YANBU.

It'll turn up somewhere nice and clean once he's finished rummaging in the shitty bin though

[squeakytoy]

I would be asking if any friends have a metal detector :)

[Sirzy]

Unless you are fairly sure it is in there then I wouldn't do it.

If it was your ring would you be willing to route through it?

[belgo]

No of course you shouldn't have to search for it. Hand him the marigolds?

[pramsgalore]

yes, make him go through the shit, even if you find it today maybe then he will wrap them up in a bag next time 's somemore

[starfishmummy]

I think at the very least he should lift the bin bags out of the wheelie to check it hasn't slipped in there when he was putting them in.

He is probably more upset about it than me, especially as I said he has to wait for our golden anniversary to get a new one - 34 years to go. Need to check our insurance to see if they will cough up but suspect the excess will be more than a new one costs (and thats assuming the receipt is still around.....)

Prams - after 13 years I doubt he will start using nappy sacks now

[seeker]

Of course not! Buy him another one and give it to him over a glass of champagne. He didn't mean to lose it and probably feels awful that he has.

[harassedandherbug]

I wouldn't do it, so YABU imo.

We've been married just over 2 yrs now and dh is currently ringless after losing two! He's a roofer and lost them both on site...

[itisnearlysummer]

DH has lost his wedding ring. It fell off in the sea on the south coast about 3 weeks ago (in case anyone's come across it...)

It's a ring. Nothing more.

It hasn't changed our marriage.

I don't know if we'll replace it. Other people seem far more concerned about it than I am

[SDTGisAnEvilGenius]

I think YABU to make him search the bin, if you have no good reason to think that the ring might be in there. It's not nice that he doesn't wrap the used inco pads before ditching them, though.

[BaronessBomburst]

Ha ha! DH doesn't wrap nappies up either, just tosses them in the bin, so if DS chucks any toys in there he's the one to fish them out.

YANBU. I'd insist he checks, if only to teach him a lesson.

[belgo]

you could argue it's less rubbish to degrade if you don't wrap up nappies.

I wouldn't make him search the bin - it's his ring, his decision.

[messymammy]

I wouldn't do it myself or expect anyone else to. YABU

[fanjobanjowanjo]

You can get biodegradable poop bags. At least definitely for dogs that I know of

[Paschaelina]

If he wants to search the bin I would help him.

[ChaoticAngeloftheUnderworld]

YANBU I wouldn't force him to look in the bin but I wouldn't help him if he decided to either.

[starfishmummy]

he has emailed with some thoughts of where else he will look tonight. so fingers crossed!
And no, if he doesn't want to check through the contents of all the bin bags I wont make him!