I have 2 "acquaintances" that both seem to delight in making put down comments to me (they might well do it to others too but I haven't noticed)
One of them is very competitive about everything, and will use any opportunity to get a dig in. She'll ask me a question and then laugh. She asked me what my teenage daughter wanted to be when she left school and I said a hairdresser, and she laughed and said "well that would be okay if you could afford to set her up in her own salon". We were talking about drama groups that again our teenage daughters go to (separate ones in separate towns) and I said that my DD was thinking of leaving as the teachers were so strict and always shouting and she said "Well it's not like that at my DD's one but then it's so expensive". She just makes nasty comments all the time. She compares our little boys too and constantly makes passive aggressive comments "Oh he's talking now, it's so nice once they can talk isn't it? I told you he'd talk ONE DAY", or comments about me "I like your dress, nice to see you in something nice". I've been friends with her for years, I want to stay on good terms but it's hard. I don't know whether to just ditch her or to start saying things back, but then I don't want to come across as defensive because people like her love it when they've hit a nerve don't they?
The other is a fellow mum on the school run, who is a bit dappy, she reminds me of Phoebe from Friends. She just makes insensitive comments all the time, I don't think she does it on purpose but I just don't know whether to challenge her or just continue avoiding her (it is hard to avoid her though as she always always manages to catch up with me and starts chatting). I went out for a drink with her a short while ago, to try to get to know her better as I thought her comments are harmless, but then even before that she said things like "Shall I come round beforehand and make you all beautiful?".
I'm thinking really it'd be best to ditch them both wouldn't it?
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To get so fed up with people that make put down comments?
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ILoatheMickeyMouseClubhouse · 13/09/2011 09:44
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