DD is 17 months old and is a very friendly, sociable child. DP and I try to make sure we have contact with friends and family BUT we don't have a car and rely on public transport (we live in a city and know lots of newish parents in the same position).
People are welcome to call at ours (both sets of grandparents call very regularly) and we do make an effort to go 'visiting' and attend family events. HOWEVER, we do feel a lot of people in the wider family (and some friends) expect us to go to them rather than the other way round and don't appreciate how much of an ordeal it is to try and get to places via a mix of buses, trains and walking with a toddler. This includes those who are fit and well and have cars.
At the moment, we go visiting for the day about once a month (3-4 hour round trip travelling plus several hours at hosts, apart from those who are several 100 miles away and then we stay overnight/for a few days) but pressure is being applied on us to come more often (particularly by DP's side).
DD gets exhausted by these trips and afterwards gets very tired and grizzly. I don't mind biting the bullet and going visiting once a month but I am not keen to do it more than that given the end-result for poor DD (which relatives often don't see). Anyone is welcome to visit us but I don't feel I want to go visiting others say every 2 or 3 weeks (plus we do need to have some family time to ourselves).
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to ask those of you without cars how often you go 'visiting' on long (ish) day trips with small children?
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whistledownthewind · 12/09/2011 13:56
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