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People teaching DS to say "ta" not "thank you"

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auburnlizzy78 Sun 11-Sep-11 17:18:10

He's 11 months. Just not sure whether I'm BU to be irritated. I say it sometimes obviously in conversation so I'm not a Brian Sewell-type stickler for perfection when it comes to spoken English.... but should we not be teaching correct words first as he will pick up enough slang on his own anyway?

One of the grandparents is always doing this - asking DS to pass her a book or a toy and repeatedly saying "ta, ta" at him. I tried the subtle approach of joining in and saying "thank you DS" but she didn't click and kept on with the "ta, ta, ta." Not sure if I should correct gently or let it go?

worraliberty Sun 11-Sep-11 17:22:15

I think people do it to teach the baby that being given things deserves some sort of acknowledgement.

'Thank you' is a lot more difficult to say than 'Ta'....but once the baby is speaking clearly, then 'Thank you' can be taught.

Kayano Sun 11-Sep-11 17:22:43

We all say ta in the north so YABU grin

I think it's fine at that age but I'm prob in the minority

mumblechum1 Sun 11-Sep-11 17:23:01

I really hate Ta.

DS used to say Tankoo <<sob>>

Sparkles23 Sun 11-Sep-11 17:23:27

YANBU, I cannot stand 'ta' it annoys the hell out of me, luckily neither set of grandparents uses it with my ds (12m) but I think I would say something-maybe in a jokey way so it's not a big deal but they get the message!

DogsBestFriend Sun 11-Sep-11 17:24:11

YANBU. I can't stand all this "ta" nonsense, yes, I would and have corrected.
I corrected my mother repeatedly when she told DD1 to say "ta", to "look at the gee-gees", "say hello to the doggy" or to "eat your bread and buppy". (^Buppy^? WTF? hmm ).

DD learned good English as a result, although my mother took considerably longer! grin

FlamingGalar Sun 11-Sep-11 17:24:47

Ah jeeze, correct it! I can't bear the use of "ta". However, I am a massive snob grin

Gluttondressedaslamb Sun 11-Sep-11 17:26:10

Ta sets my teeth on edge. And I`m from the north smile

Sillyoldelf Sun 11-Sep-11 17:27:02

Unless your dc is extremely advanced in the speech department . Yabu . You need to relax a bit IMO. .

cat64 Sun 11-Sep-11 17:27:24

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Takitezee Sun 11-Sep-11 17:29:07

YANBU It makes me cringe to hear this. There are lots of words that children can't say at first they just adapt them until they can.

somewherewest Sun 11-Sep-11 17:29:09

YAB(very)U. Is this really the biggest anxiety in your life?

SinicalSal Sun 11-Sep-11 17:30:14

relax about it, it's simple to say and he can learn correct queens en glish when he's a strapping big lad of 2.

Takitezee Sun 11-Sep-11 17:30:36

Whilst we're on the subject exBIL used to say bockie for bottle which was just as bad.

Cereal Sun 11-Sep-11 17:31:03

Wouldn't bother me.

JarethTheGoblinKing Sun 11-Sep-11 17:31:14

YANBU - thank you was one of the first things DS said, I remember people doing this as well and found it annoying

skinnymuffin Sun 11-Sep-11 17:32:02

It is annoying. One of ds's grandparents also does this, I sympathise. However, I don't think you will get far trying to police what other people say to your children, it just isn't worth the aggravation and you will come off looking the worse for it, imo.

If I were you (and I am, sort of!) I'd pick your battles, take a breath and let this one go.

auburnlizzy78 Sun 11-Sep-11 17:32:16

No it's not the biggest anxiety in my life. FFS, is AIBU only for matters of national importance? It was a quick straw poll, that's all.

somewherewest Sun 11-Sep-11 17:32:26

It just occurred to me that my threshold for correct language in young children may be unusually low. My mother had to put up with my teenage uncle teaching me to say "fuck off" at a similar age grin, so "ta" really doesn't sound so bad.

auburnlizzy78 Sun 11-Sep-11 17:34:22

Ok, in that case your reaction understandable smile

onagar Sun 11-Sep-11 17:36:09

"good English" is meaningless in this context. People in different regions have different words for things just as people in different countries do. You wouldn't correct a Frenchman for saying "bonjour instead of hello"

herethereandeverywhere Sun 11-Sep-11 17:36:38

I was the same as you and it used to REALLY irritate me, even DD's nursery did it. But, she developed to thank you no problems at all (by about 14-16 months). Whenever she said "ta", I'd say thank you. She soon picked it up. It is nice for them to learn the basics of manners as early as possible. It's lovely now when she says it unprompted.

pointydog Sun 11-Sep-11 17:37:01

yabu. So some people say ta, so what? It's easier for a child to say ta and it doesn't stop them learning thank you at the same time. You just come across as massively uptight.

Baby talk, or motherese, aids speech development.

MrsLevinson Sun 11-Sep-11 17:37:19

I'm Northern and I use ta. But for some reason I hate hearing children say it, and use thank you around my DC. YANBU.

thefirstMrsDeVere Sun 11-Sep-11 17:39:33

Some of my DCs went straight to Thank you (or Ahh ooo) some stayed at Ta for a while.

Its really not something that worries me.

They only talk like babies for a short time.

We say Ta quite a bit in North/East London too.

I cannot bear 'going a toilet' or 'pouring a rain though'.

So I suppose we all have our limits grin

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