I don't live all that close to DS, DDIL and DGD1 and 2 and I work full time so I don't see them all that often, maybe every 2-3 weeks. I love them all to bits. Anyway we were in the throes of planning a particular outing as a treat but had yet to fix a date. DDIL had written suggesting a day next week which I can't make so I phoned to say so and DS said that was okay as DGD1 had been acting up enormously and was on the cusp of being told that the treat was out of the window. Fair play. I mean I felt it punished me just as much but I would not dream of overriding/undermining him in this area. However he then calls out to DGD1: Nanny Gissa says the outing's off because you've been so naughty. Say WHAT??????????????????? I would not have minded him blaming me by saying I wasn't available when they were, and, as I said, I have no quarrel with his choosing the cancellation/postponement as a punishment but I am totally fuming at being painted as the evil one/disciplinarian in this way. As I said, I don't see her all that much so when I do I don't want her thinking of me as the wicked witch of the west. This is only true half of the time and this is the wrong half!!! DGD is 5. AIBU?