Can I be cheeky and ask......

[MadShoeLady]

How much you pay for shoes, trainers etc for your dc?

Leaning more towards teenage boy with large man feet.

It is an AIBU by the way, your answers may help me solve a blazing row slight disagreement with the exp

[BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack]

Well my DS is only 9 with really small feet and I buy him one pair a year from Clarkes which are about £34.

[scurryfunge]

School shoes - around £50

Other shoes - £30 to £40

School trainers -£30 to £40

Other trainers - £60 to £70 but are usually birthday or Christmas or he contributes.

[SockMunkee]

ds has adult size 12 feet, I paid £65 for his last pair of trainers

[mumsamilitant]

DS now nearly 14 and has a bit of a lable thing going on.

Got Kicker shoes at Barratts for £50.00

Trainers from JD for same.

Refuse to pay over £50 for them unless as scurryfudge says, they're for either birthday or Christmas.

[Doilooklikeatourist]

Age 16 boy , With size 9 feet .
Prices as scurryfunge .

[HarrietSchulenberg]

Just paid £40 for Clarke's school shoes plus £35 football boots, £20 out-of-school shoes and he still needs Astroturf boots for footie training which will be around the £25 mark. All for one 10 year old boy with size 6 feet.

On a lighter note, Tesco trainers were reduced to £5 so they are being used for school PE kit (i.e. only get used for about 2 hours each week).

[AgentProvocateur]

Schools shoes (men's M&S shoes) - about £40-50.

Trainers - about £35.

For two boys, size 9 and 10 feet.

[ExitPursuedByATroll]

Last pair we purchased for DD (size 8) were about £50 - but she wanted the £90 pair.

[TrillianAstra]

YABU because you have not asked an AIBU question. HTH

[TrillianAstra]

If you're posting in AIBU you need to tell us what the potential unreasonableness is, not jsut ask us about shoe prices.

[Bellavita]

Trainers for home - Ds1 is 14.

His last pair of Nike baseball boots were £70. He has also got a pair of Lee Cooper baseball boots which were only £15. His school shoes we managed to get in the mens's Clarkes sale they should have been £60 but paid £30. I think the pair before that were around £44. His school trainers we managed to pick up from Sports Soccer and they were around £15. He is. Size 8.

[MadShoeLady]

I do apologise Trillian, let me re-word it:

"AIBU to pay £35 for a decent pair of trainers for my 14 year old ds who has size 11 feet, then let his father know that he owes me half because he agreed in advance to it".

Because exp says I am "taking the piss" and he wont be paying it again.

Is that better?

[TrillianAstra]

YANBU at all - how much does he think shoes cost?

[Truffleshuffler]

Ds is only 2 and his shoes cost £26

[Bellavita]

Ooh I don't know why that trainers for him appeared at the beginning of my post

£35 is not a lot of money for trainers for size 11 feet - he is the one taking the piss.

Are these trainers for school or home? I only buy cheap for school as he will only wear them once a week, but I will buy whichever pair he wants for home/going out in. DH doesn't get a say he just pays the bill!

[Bellavita]

Trainers for home

[parkgate]

£35 isn't over and above for a pair of shoes for a boy with "man feet" you could get cheaper but they'd fall apart.

However, when your ex agrees upfront to pay for half of something you should agree the amount before going shopping.

He should be wise enough to know the costs of boys shoes of course but it isn't nice to technically receive an invoice for something if you were expecting it to be however much it is.

He should have said "yes i'll pay half, but up to the value of X" but man are knobs so you need to preempt this kind of thing.

[Maisiethemorningsidecat]

About £30 - anything with labels etc he contributes towards or waits til his birthday. He is almost 14 with size 11 feet.

[MadShoeLady]

He's been so arsy about it that I did actually start to wonder if I was in the wrong. I've never agreed with paying a fortune just for a name but i'm not going to waste money buying cheap market trainers that dont last five minutes. I did try to explain that to him....it didn't go well!

[Bellavita]

He needs to get a grip and get in the real world of how much stuff costs.

[MadShoeLady]

I see what you're saying parkgate but I honestly thought he'd know they would be around the £30-£35 mark as he's around the same shoe size.

School trainers I buy cheap as he wont be wearing them often and I dont ask for anything towards them. In fact, I rarely ask for anything and dont claim maintenance so I can't see why he's so annoyed

[TrillianAstra]

I bet he doesn't wear cheapo trainers himself.

[MadShoeLady]

I wouldn't know, he normally pulls up in the car and grunts in my general direction...I never get to see his feet

[startail]

Not unreasonable at all!
I have the Next catalogue on my knee.
Black or White Reebocks £35 - everything else is more expensive. So I think he got of lightly.

[WhoseGotMyEyebrows]

So he doesn't pay maintenance and rarely contributes towards anything and he's complaining about a one off payment of £17.50?

You should divide that by 14 years or how ever long you have been seperated and point out that it works out £1.25 per year. Then ask him if that is too much to pay out for his son.