I'm 41 and have one DS - 18 mths. I have always been a bit ambivalent about having another child, on the one hand enjoying my work and life with one and not wanting the stress, hard work and chaos of two. On the other hand, thinking that a sibling for DS would benefit him and in the long run we'd be a more balanced family. Ideally, I'd wait another couple of years but at 41, I don't think I necessarily have a couple of years. DP is keen for another.
I'm CD23 today and I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant from a random post-holiday, lots of wine sh*g. I know it's early days to be so sure but I know my cycle pretty well and this would be my 3rd pregnancy. Over the last 2 days I've had signs that can only mean one thing. I'm shocked because it took me ages to get pregnant with DS and I've only had my periods back for a few months now since BFing and they have been so odd that I've been convinced I'm peri-menopausal.
AIBU to feel so ambivalent? I am terrified about the prospect of a newborn and a two year old. I'm terrified about the money side of things, the space in the house, losing my job and my yoga practice which I've only just really got back into in the last 6 months. My last pregnancy was really complicated and my body really suffered.
At the moment we can leave DS with a grandparent and have a night off. We can take him most places and feel like we have a life that is not totally ruled by children.
With two DCs will I ever have a life again? AIBU and thinking it's all about me when actually our family will really benefit and lots of people would love to be in my position. Help!
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To not be sure if I want to be up the duff?
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ashtangini · 07/09/2011 10:46
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