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shouldbeelswhere Tue 06-Sep-11 20:50:58

My son is the only boy in his class now. What would you do?

magicmelons Tue 06-Sep-11 20:52:47

I would move him, boys need other boys to play with and they don't need to be compared to girls in terms of behaviour.

shouldbeelswhere Tue 06-Sep-11 20:54:04

Yes, that's how I feel but it's such a big step

greencolorpack Tue 06-Sep-11 20:55:36

What year is he? Is he destined for a boy's school for high school?

Chundle Tue 06-Sep-11 20:56:47

I wouldn't move him - there are other boys in the school for him to play with at play time which will do him good socially as will get him to interact outside his immediate circle of classmates. Also he will be the centre of attention in class with all them girls around him! They will mother him, love him and he will enjoy it most probably. And the teacher will love him being the only boy in a class full of noisy giggling girls!

zippy539 Tue 06-Sep-11 20:58:25

Where have the other boys gone? Is it a very tiny school? Is there much socialisation across the year groups during break etc?

ColonelBrandon Tue 06-Sep-11 20:59:34

What's the set-up?

Vallhala Tue 06-Sep-11 21:01:52

I'd be asking DS what he thinks and looking at what the school offers as a whole. Is the education good? Do you rely on its before/after school care and is that good if so? Are standards of behaviour acceptable, have they a robust and effective anti-bullying procedure? Is your son safe, nurtured and cared for at the current school?

Ask yourself where DS would go if not at this school, realistically, remembering that if you're in England most of the more desirable schools will be full and places hard to come by. Identify a school that you like with places before making any decisions and consider transport, uniform expense and the like.

How will DS cope with a move? Will he miss favourite teachers or friends in other years? Yes he may be the only lad in his class but he may have girl friends or pals in higher/lower years. How old is he - if he's due to go up to senior school in a year or two is it wise to move him now?

Remember that although his situation is unusual it isn't unique and just as HE families do you may find that you can redress the social balance by involving him in out of school activities, be that an after school club with both girls and boys or scouts/cubs etc. (Or indeed finding some other families, perhaps HE ones, to mix with out of school).

There would have to be other things "wrong" with the school before I moved my child... I hope that this might give you something to consider when making a decision.

shouldbeelswhere Tue 06-Sep-11 21:03:21

Thanks greencolorpack and chundle he's 7 and they are so polorised at that age in their gender roles. His class are in the main real girly girls, with a few very strong personalities and I'm not sure how much he interacts with others at playtimes.

He seems fine with it at the moment (day 1) but I just feel he could miss out on more than he'll gain. Tell me I'm worrying unnecessarily...I just keep thinking of PE lessons and drama...

Callisto Tue 06-Sep-11 21:09:07

I would say that at 7 the ages are not particularly polarised. I don't really get why you're worried about PE and drama - is all girl PE and drama different to mixed sex PE and drama?

FabbyChic Tue 06-Sep-11 21:11:19

He needs to be with boys his own age to forge friendships, to have out of school interests with, I'd definately move him.

iskra Tue 06-Sep-11 21:12:55

is this a private school where the other boys have moved on to other 7+ options?

Chundle Tue 06-Sep-11 21:12:58

Ok at 7 he will be fine. My dd is 7 and if he was in her class he would be fine as she loves playing football, Ben 10, wrestling, fighting, match attax etc etc as does her and 4 of her good girly mates. I think you always get a group of tomboy girls that will cling to the boys so he should be ok, also others may move into the school next term/year etc

shouldbeelswhere Tue 06-Sep-11 21:14:27

Only that there are only 10 of them and I have no idea, I just suspect it's easy for it to get a bit girly which is what happened last year even when there were 3 boys. I suspect all girl PE is different as would be all boy PE?

shouldbeelswhere Tue 06-Sep-11 21:18:03

Yes iskra but I'm not definate about why they've moved; possibly financial reasons but not in all cases.

shouldbeelswhere Tue 06-Sep-11 21:26:58

Thank you vallhala I've been thinking a long those lines and there are no easy quick fixes on this as much as I'd like there to be regarding other schools in the area.

but thank you for the "meeting up with HE children", that's a thought.

what's most important the small class size or the lack of boys?

amistillsexy Tue 06-Sep-11 21:46:14

I wouldn't want my child to be the only one of their sex in the class.
I think it would be very lonely.
Who does he sit next to? Chat to? Have a laugh with? Who does he tell his rude jokes to? I have a 7YO and he loves his crappy jokes and 'toilet' humour. Other 7YO boys will just 'get' this, but not all 7YO girls would!
I'm surprised that the school aren't looking into alternatives, to be honest. I can see that they can't just 'draft in' other 7YO boys, but surely he could go into the class above, or the class below (depending on his age and/or social maturity). In my opinion, that would be preferable to his being the only boy.

shouldbeelswhere Wed 07-Sep-11 21:15:05

You've made some good points ami. At the moment he seems happy (day 2 so very early days) I've written a letter to his teacher about my concerns for his personal development and I've asked to meet to discuss in early October. At least that way I've flagged up our concerns and she will be expecting me. In the meantime we can see how he settles and address issues if they arise earlier.

amistillsexy Wed 07-Sep-11 23:25:15

He could be completely oblivious to it all, or else really enjoying the attention, as someone said upthread. I hope it all works out ok.

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RedHelenB Thu 08-Sep-11 07:30:50

Will they not do PE in mixed age groups? At a guess, more boys will join the class at some point in his schooling & at the end of the day he is in school to learn, he can go to out of school all boy activities for his socialising & rude jokes!!!

Morloth Thu 08-Sep-11 07:57:14

I know my 7yo DS would be pretty lonely if there were no boys in his class.

There is a pretty even mix in his class this year and he does play with the girls, but they are different (and yes I know there are exceptions before you all go crazy).

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