MY PIL are in their 90s.
They are both fully mentally aware, unfortunately their bodies are not what they used to be.
They want to remain in their own home, and fortunately have the means to pay for their care.
They pay for 2 carers to come in 3 times a day, it is done through the council via an agency, but they pay the council for the number of hours they require the care.
The carers are meant to come in the morning for 2 hours to get them dressed, prepare breakfast, help my MIL eat the food, change the bedding, and any time left over do light housework (such as washing up the 2 cups and 2 plates in the sink). They then are meant to come for an 1 hour at lunch time, to prepare lunch, feed MIL, and wash up. They then come for 2 hours in the evening to prepare dinner, feed MIL, get them ready for bed and run the hoover around.
So far this month: -
they have arrived at 11am for the breakfast stint, so PILs have been stuck in bed all that time with no food/drink.
forced MIL to have a drink when she has a) said she doesn't want one and b) laid flat on her back on the bed.
arrived at 3pm for the "evening" stint, and put them to bed then
rushed through the basic care of the PILs and then sat on the sofa for the remaining 1hr 45mins watching television rather than doing housework.
place their drinks out of their reach once in bed so that they can't reach them, despite requests for it to be nearer.
This is just a few examples of the treatment they have had.
We as their children feel guilty that we don't live nearer to be able to care for them ourselves, but find this treatment of paid carers shockingly awful.
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Whatisitthistime · 05/09/2011 22:14
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