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moogster1a Mon 05-Sep-11 16:11:43

Following on from another thread; we're getting married in October. Registry office then meal at very expensive restaurant for 12 people. I deliberately booked the meal as a family get together. It's already going to be at least £100 per head without a "special wedding price".
But...I'm now worrying they'll get narky if they realise we've just got married.
They can't slap on an extra charge can they?!! I know realistically they can't but has anyone done this and had any hassle?

Failsafe Mon 05-Sep-11 16:14:34

Wow, how very exciting!

I shouldn't think the resturant would be narky or charge you extra, as you say it is a family meal anyway, just that you happend to have got married beforehand!

Congratulations!

fanjobanjowanjo Mon 05-Sep-11 16:15:17

Don't worry - it's absolutely NONE of their business that you'll be just married, you are there as a group for a group meal! For all they know, noone knows you are getting married and you're surprising everyone!

CONGRATULATIONS smile

cleanteeth Mon 05-Sep-11 16:15:20

I dont see how its any of their business tbh. If they specifically asked when you made the booking then fair do's, tell them. But otherwise why should it make a difference

YougreatPamplemousse Mon 05-Sep-11 16:16:28

We did this - we booked a private dining room at at posh hotel and never told them we were getting married, they gave us a firm written quote for the price. Two days before we got married I e-mailed the lady told her we were getting married first and could I drop off a cake and some favours the day before. She replied with a new invoice with £150 room hire added, we phoned the manager and e-mailed a copy of the initial quote and we never paid the £150. I was shock how they can add stupid charges just because you add the word wedding to your booking. Everything was exactly the same as before and I even offered to set the favours out myself! I wouldn't tell them and just turn up on the day.

LineRunner Mon 05-Sep-11 16:16:58

I think you're being very sensible.

Most venues hear the word 'wedding' and mysteriously add another nought onto the price.

cantmakecarrotcake Mon 05-Sep-11 16:18:44

We didn't tell our restaurant that we were getting married when we booked. It only matters if you expect the 'extras' you'd get with a wedding package. I think we told them in the end but only after the rates were agreed for dinner and the rooms we'd reserved.

harrietthespook Mon 05-Sep-11 18:01:39

pamplemousse have you told that story before? I was just thinking of it on another thread today. It was you wasn't it?

I wish more people would do this. Seriously - if there are no 'wedding favours' or God knows what why on earth should it be more?! But it is. Just because they can make you feel panicked about 'the best day of your life.'

YougreatPamplemousse Mon 05-Sep-11 18:10:03

It may well have been under a different name.

wishiwasholdingaachinegun Mon 05-Sep-11 18:18:50

I had a friend who booked an £18 bog standard haircut, mentioned she was getting married and was then charged nearly double because it was a 'wedding cut'.

She paid it. I wouldn't have.

I wouldn't mention it. The 'wedding bit' would alrady have hapened, this'll just be your dinner.

grin

harrietthespook Mon 05-Sep-11 18:22:23

Please take a photograph of their faces when you roll the cake out.

Seriuosly - I don't want to put you off. Just do it.

Onlyaphase Mon 05-Sep-11 18:30:52

I read in the paper the other day about a couple who did this - registry office ceremony, then off to a smart hotel for a meal for 10 or 12 of them. The couple had only sat down at the table for 10 minutes when the hotel asked the bride to get changed out of her wedding dress. There was another wedding actually taking place there that day, and the hotel didn't allow more than one bridal party at a time.

It transpired that the hotel had a policy of only one wedding/wedding party per day - it was a very smart hotel so weddings cost a fortune, so I suppose brides didn't want to see another few wedding parties scattered around the dining room.

So, I suppose your smart restaurant could have a similar policy OP? Though if you aren't wearing a wedding dress then how would they know?

Andrewofgg Mon 05-Sep-11 18:31:29

Do it, and if they complain, remember what goes with Gomorrah.

Cereal Mon 05-Sep-11 18:33:46

Phone up and don't say who you are, then ask what the "special wedding price" includes.

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