DH and I know someone who got married to her second husband yesterday.
We had a massive falling out with this person about three years ago, and haven't spoken since. She is older than us by about 20 years, and when the fall out happened she told some very serious lies, which caused DH and I a lot of stress and upset for a good few months, and resulted in a close group of friends taking sides with either her or DH.
We were all part of a sporty type club, which was very close to being ruined when DH and the large group of people on 'our side' left. I am still friends with everyone that took 'her side' although I rarely see them now. It's very complicated, but I understand their point of things, and they have no way of knowing who to believe really.
Anyway, I have, in my head, completely forgiven this woman for what she did. She was wrong, but she was hurting, she had just lost her husband (dies from a heart attack) who was very good friends with my DH. She never did anything directly bad to me, I was just guilty of sticking up for DH in her eyes.
This is where I don't know if I'm being unreasonable. I have spent the last 20 minutes looking at her wedding pictures from mutual fb friends. I have thought many times about contacting her to just say that I wish her well, but after looking at the picutres I have this overwhelming urge just to say that she looked lovely, congratulations and that I wish her every happiness. Would that be selfish of me to intrude on her happy time just because I have something to say, or would itbe a nice thing to do? Is it just one of those evils of facebook - as I wouldn't be thinking of doing it now without seeing those pictures?
If you've got this far, thank you! Please encourage me to do something nice or stop me from doing something stupid!
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slavetofilofax · 04/09/2011 20:47
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