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to buy my daughter clothes for her birthday?

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fuckthisforalarf Sat 03-Sep-11 12:20:36

She will be 10 in 2 weeks.
I have just shelled out for school uniform/shoes etc.
She really needs some tops, pj's, undies, she wants a denim jacket etc.
AIBU to buy her stuff (that she needs and would likely get anyway), and wrap it up as a birthday present.
As she is getting a netbook as her main present, she wont be getting anything else.
Normally, I would get one main present and a few little things (CD's, books, make up etc) to go with it, but because the netbook is so expensive, that is it this year.

PuppyMonkey Sat 03-Sep-11 12:22:31

Netbook sounds just about acceptable, yes.grin

HeadfirstForHalos Sat 03-Sep-11 12:24:25

I'm sure she will survive the hardship of having a netbook clothes for her birthday grin

worraliberty Sat 03-Sep-11 12:25:33

I was just about to say YABU til I saw the netbook Lol

fuckthisforalarf Sat 03-Sep-11 12:28:33

grin netbook is to stop her taking over my laptop and for internet access for homework.
I have saved up JL vouchers (that I earn doing online research) and she is getting a basic model. So its not actually costing me anything.
So wrapping up the clothes is ok, just gives her a few bits to open.

Marne Sat 03-Sep-11 12:35:09

I dont see a problem, she's getting a netbook so she wont just be getting clothes, my dd's are a lot younger but i olnly spend around £20 for birthdays and they only get the one present, by the time they are 10 i think they wont mind getting clothes, luckily my dd's birthdays are not long after christmas so they already have lots of tat and are not overly bothered what they get for their birthdays (this may change as they get older).

I think she will be happy with clothes to unwrap as well as the notebook.

elliejjtiny Sat 03-Sep-11 12:40:36

YANBU. I get my children clothes for birthday and chrristmas all the time. DH thinks clothes are a rubbish present but they love it so I ignore him grin

coccyx Sat 03-Sep-11 12:41:52

My daughters all like getting clothes

FabbyChic Sat 03-Sep-11 12:50:07

Clothes are a rubbish present and as parents we are responsible for clothing our children so why give as a present, however you ARE giving a netbook so anything else is a bonus even if clothes.

If clothes is for a main present I feel it is a really poor show on the parents in not having the intelligence to think of something decent.

LunarRose Sat 03-Sep-11 12:53:39

Wow - sounds super, can I be your daughter? grin

DialMforMummy Sat 03-Sep-11 13:07:53

YANBU a Netbook and clothes sound like a lot to me. IME Girls love getting clothes!

coccyx Sat 03-Sep-11 13:10:06

fabbychic I have 3 daughters , they have loads of clothes and in their eyes the more the merrier. so certainly not a rubbish present for them. I am intelligent enough to get them want they want which is clothes.

ChippingIn Sat 03-Sep-11 13:12:04

I would get her a few of the things she would like rather than needs (such as the denim jacket) but not the essentials. I'd also get a few little other bits that she would like - they needn't be expensive (such as gel pens, lip gloss, book - don't know what she's into!!).

livinonaprayer Sat 03-Sep-11 13:13:29

Yes it is our responsibility to clothe our children but mine get car boot bargains, sale items and supermarket clothes the rest of the year. On their birthdays they get more expensive or special items of clothing.
Think my intelligence is ok but others may disagree

Ifancyashandy Sat 03-Sep-11 13:15:48

I LOVED getting clothes as a present when I was a kid. Still do!

diddl Sat 03-Sep-11 14:29:41

"If clothes is for a main present I feel it is a really poor show on the parents in not having the intelligence to think of something decent."

My teenage daughter would disagree!

pigletmania Sat 03-Sep-11 14:33:41

erm Fabby it depends what clothes they are now doesn't it. As a teenager I would have loved free reign in TopShop, Etam.

fatlazymummy Sat 03-Sep-11 14:55:04

It depends to me. Parents are obligated to clothe their children adequately so their basic wardrobe shouldn't be a birthday present. When they start asking for specific things ,especially if they are 'label' or more expensive, or generally 'over and above' their normal needs then it is alright to give them as a gift.
Personally I would probably wrap up one or two very small 'girly' bits instead, unless your daughter is really into fashion.

QOD Sat 03-Sep-11 15:00:59

My DD wants clothes for Xmas, she will be 13 by then.
I have already stashed 2 x Jack WIlls tshirts (reduced from £32 to £16 and £28 to £10) - a Jack Wills hoody (from £69 to £29) Jack Wills bag (£16 to £4) - expensive stuff she doesn't need but wants
(and as yet she is a bit too young and naive to know it's this years stock reduced LOL)
I think treat clothes are great pressies - no way would I buy that normally - she loves Primark t's at £4

zukiecat Sat 03-Sep-11 15:14:06

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zukiecat Sat 03-Sep-11 15:17:32

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AbbyLou Sat 03-Sep-11 15:19:48

Definitely not unreasonable. My dd loves getting clothes for a present and she is only 4!! She actually spent her 4th birthday money on pink Lego and Hello Kitty boots, sunhat and t-shirt. She also bought herself some jewellery and pretty hairclips. Ds thinks clothes are boring as presents but dd - definitely not. Both of them have so many toys they don't know what to do with them. I will be asking people to get dd clothes this Christmas as she has so many toys and we can buy the ones she really wants. Ds is having an Ipod for his birthday (19/12) so we will be asking people for ITunes vouchers if they have no ideas.

DoubleNegativePanda Sat 03-Sep-11 15:39:27

My DD turned 10 last week, I did something similar. I bought the present she was dying for (which only cost $20) and also gave her a homemade gift certificate for a "shopping trip". The girl loves to shop and I can almost never afford it. She spent about two hours in her favorite store and came out positively glowing. As a plus, she now has enough school clothes (no uniforms here, more's the pity).

ownthreadhider Sat 03-Sep-11 15:40:54

What if they ask for clothes Fabby? My DD does.

TheBride Sat 03-Sep-11 15:48:31

There is definitely a watershed when getting clothes for presents stops being rubbish and starts being brilliant, and I think 10 is about right, especially if she's been asking for a denim jacket.

I still remember the joy I felt when I opened my "easter egg" from my auntie to find, instead, the most wonderful pink puffball skirt (remember them?????)

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