We are already have one child. I would like to have another child, but DH would not. We have discussed this frequently over the last couple of years and the discussions are always calm and we can both see each others point of view, but we just can't agree. We have been together just over 10 years and obviously talked about these things before we got married, we agreed that we didn't want a huge family but 1 or 2 children.
As I said, I understand his point of view and that we have not agreed, but I do feel resentful about actively preventing pregnancy myself by using contraception. Would I be unreasonable to say to him that I continue to respect his choice, but I want him to sort out contraception for himself?
YANBU He doesn't want another DC so it's his responsibility to control his fertility, whether that be through condom or a vasectomy. Why should you keep putting chemicals in your body to prevent something he doesn't want.
YANBU - DH had a vesctomy as he didn't want anymore children (we have 3 together) and I want/ed more and as he knew wouldn't be doing anything about birth control he did it. We did have 3 DC at this point though.
My DH is terrified of having a vasectomy and I have to respect that but in his defence, his father had a vasectomy 24 yrs ago and self healed resulting in my 20 yr old SIL - so he thinks there is a risk of history repeating itself
I know there is little chance of that happening but I am tired of requesting sterilisation and being denied despite having 6 DC and recently having a MMC - I have said this on here before and I'm still no nearer getting a positive answer from any of the GP's at my practice as I haven't yet tried the implant or the coil - so for the time being I am stuck on the depo shot which gives me really bad mood swings
I'm now thinking that my only option is to change practices and see if I have any luck there