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Purplegirlie Thu 01-Sep-11 16:12:04

To someone who keeps making passive aggressive comments about your figure?

I have a friend who means well but I think she is jealous as I've recently lost a lot of weight (2 stone). Every time I see her she makes comments about how good I look but they've always got a sting in the tail, for example "Oh you look so much more toned now, much less flabby than you were before", usually in front of as many people as possible.

I have started replying "Ooooh thank you, I'm so glad you think I look good, I'm so pleased about the weight loss".

Lighthearted, but what sort of responses would you give?

TartyMcFarty Thu 01-Sep-11 16:12:51

'Would you like some pointers?'

Purplegirlie Thu 01-Sep-11 16:13:21

Hahahahaa Tarty, that's a good one!!!

troisgarcons Thu 01-Sep-11 16:13:31

Try "thank you, I must share my secret with you so you can tone up too" grin

LaurieFairyCake Thu 01-Sep-11 16:14:59

"Well, being as young and attractive as I am I have found the skin has just popped back into shape, How's your acne doing? And have you got rid of that thrush round your mouth?"

All said in a booming voice.

BeerTricksPotter Thu 01-Sep-11 16:16:35

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upahill Thu 01-Sep-11 16:19:51

I know, I feel good.
Why not (do the shread, come to aerobics, go running or whatever you did) with me sometime , it'll do wonders for your (tummy, ass whatever she is unhappy about) as well.

CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 01-Sep-11 16:21:28

"Ladies and gentlemen... can I introduce you to my friend... her Native American name is Dances with Backhanded Compliments"

Rowena8482 Thu 01-Sep-11 16:24:07

Say, equally loudly "yes, it's a shame your thighs chafed so badly that time you tried to join in the exercise class, or you might be toned by now too"

Purplegirlie Thu 01-Sep-11 16:25:47

Thanks everyone! I have just laughed loudly reading through all of your replies! Oh the fun I will have the next time I see her.....

kelly2000 Thu 01-Sep-11 16:30:53

Either just thanks, or say "sorry, what did you say" as if you did not hear what she said. If she meant it to be nasty she will cringe at having to repeat it in front of people. Its quite a good way to see if people meant something bitchily or not.

plupervert Thu 01-Sep-11 16:35:37

"You're still as obnoxious as ever, I see."

Jog on, lard arse...

lazarusb Thu 01-Sep-11 18:02:32

I can change my weight, probably too late for your personality....

SnakeOnCrack Thu 01-Sep-11 18:04:11

"Did you mean that to sound rude YOU BITCH?"

LRDTheFeministDragon Thu 01-Sep-11 18:10:59

'Oh, thanks - it's really easy but you'll find the cellulite is the last thing to go.'

Ahem.

I should say you should say something terribly supportive and magnanimous given she's probably insecure ... but, well, I'd be tempted.

Irishchic Thu 01-Sep-11 18:12:42

You've shed two stone, now maybe it's time to shed her, she doesnt sound like much of a friend.

ImperialBlether Thu 01-Sep-11 18:33:53

I would have to say, "Why is it when you pay me a compliment, you always follow it by an insult?" in a loud voice.

But yes, the easiest thing would be to drop her as a friend.

Whatmeworry Thu 01-Sep-11 18:35:15

"I know, I feel so much better for it, and its not been as hard as I thought it would be, I'd recommend it to anyone" (Big Smile)

Is that PA enough? grin

Purplegirlie Thu 01-Sep-11 18:45:20

I want to try out ALL of those responses when I next see her! grin

Jodianna Thu 01-Sep-11 18:48:44

Is your best friend my mother?
wink

Salmotrutta Thu 01-Sep-11 19:08:40

Cheeky besom.

You could either ignore and drop her as a "friend" hmm or gush very happily and say "Oh thank you!! It's amazing that soooo many people have complimented me lately. Aren't people lovely?".
Then beam happily.

TartyMcFarty Thu 01-Sep-11 19:14:40

'And I never imagined I could lose another 14st so quickly. Bye.'

HairyGrotter Thu 01-Sep-11 19:17:01

A swift "Fuck off bellend" would work just aswell in my circle

exoticfruits Thu 01-Sep-11 19:28:01

I always think you do better not to engage. Just say 'yes, I'm thrilled'. Whatever you do, keep the same phrase-she will get bored in the end.
If you get clever or rude and she will know that you are nettled.
It can be fun just to take people at face value-they really can't tell if you get the sub text or not and there is not much satisfaction in someone who 'doesn't get it'.

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