Dh is Spanish and his parents live in Madrid. I get on quite well with mil but fil is a moody alcoholic and brings everyone else down. Ds is turning 2 over xmas. We spent last xmas including ds's first birthday with in-laws in Madrid. I had a rubbish time, and so did dh. It culminated in him telling his dad he wouldn't get to see ds again unless he sorted out his drinking. We went over in May and fil was well behaved. It was like spending time with a normal human being for a change. I actually enjoyed the holiday instead of feeling trapped.
The thing is we live in England and ds sees much more of my parents than he sees the in-laws. Dh thinks that because of this we should always spend xmas with his parents but I disagree. We visit them around 3 times a year and they come here at least twice a year. I have learned Spanish and I make a lot of effort to embrace Spanish culture. I just want to have Christmas and ds's birthday with my own family on alternate years. I don't think that's too much to ask, especially as we can still go over to Spain for new year and Epiphany, which is a big festival and present-giving day for kids. So what do you think - AIBU?
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To not want to spend xmas with in-laws every year?
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joannita · 30/08/2011 21:59
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