We have a local group of families that we socialise with, as I'm sure you all do, and recently I've been feeling a bit iffy about the behaviour of one of the fathers towards me.
On the last two occasions we've all met up, at the start and the end of the gathering he's kissed me on the lips, now I tend to do air kisses with most people, and come from a cultural background where we don't do kisses on the lips to anyone except your partner and maybe your children when they're very, very young, and to be honest we don't really do hugging either so I'm happy to be told I'm over reacting. But I really don't know if this is normal or not?
We're a very mixed group, with people originally from all over Europe, Africa and the US, so I'm not sure if maybe it's more common practice in some cultures than others.
So I'm not accused of BU by stealth, I also wanted to add that at the last gathering he also patted me on the bum, not a grope nor did it linger, and it seemed to be in context with the general light hearted mood, but I thought I may as well mention it now.
We've only known each other about a year, we've probably see each other as part of the group, 6-8 times, but we have a good laugh and take the piss out of each other, quite frequently
So is this normal, am I being a bit of a prude, or is he being overly friendly?
Whether it's too far or not, if you're not comfortable, you don't have to put up with it.
I wouldn't make an issue of it, but would tell my DH and try and figure it so that he says goodbye to him, not me. I'd get my coat or bend to get my handbag and wave instead! Or, v effective, when they come at you for the embrace, take a step back and put your hand out to shake. Only do it a few times and he'll get the message.