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Paedophile on my street

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EarlyYearsProfessional · 30/08/2011 00:01

I live in a lovely quiet village. Alot of the residents are either elderly or young families who have been brought up in the same street..it really is lovely!

Last yr a man whose parents live on my street was convicted and sent to prison for 16 months due to looking at paedophile images (sorry dont really know correct terminology for this filth) on the internet. It was reported he was looking into the worst kind of images you can imagine. they graded it in our local newspaper..but I cant quite remember what it was...just horrendous is what I remember!

Bit of background..my husband went to school with this man. He was a family man, worked as a postie and had 2 young children..a girl and boy under 8 at the time! His parents are lovely. I always see his children playing in the garden happily. It was his wife who found the images and reported him..it was then found to be true!

My issue is that I saw him the other day. In his car, laughing and joking with both his children on front seat laughing. He parked outside his mums and dads. i told my hubby he wud take refuge there but he said he thought he wud hide out from such a family orientated village. Obviously not! Then yesterday we drove past his parents house and we saw his car. I pointed to show my hubby and sure enough we saw him running round garden with his kids!

everyone was sooo shocked when it happened as he was such a normal regular family man! I cringe now thinking that he is on the same street (a few door away). What about my children? What about my childminding business?? I just cant digest it. I know its noit his parents fault but I just dont want him living nr me..or the children of our village! Im not comfortable with keeping quiet or just pretending it hasnt happened!

How should we as a family and a village deal with this?

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fishtankneedscleaning · 30/08/2011 00:05

You are aware of a paedophile living a few doors away. You ask How will it effect your children and your childminding business?

Answer - You keep your children, and the children you childmind, within your sight at all times.

Poweredbypepsi · 30/08/2011 00:05

I dont think theres much you can do unless he is not supposed to have access to his children? I wouldnt like it but dont really think you can prevent him living with his parents.

Kayano · 30/08/2011 00:06

Kill the beast ? Cut it's throat?

Sorry but have images of lord of the flies style mob with flaming torches in my mind now.

Legally there is not a lot you can do. It's awful but he has served time and has to live somewhere?
My sympathies though

At least you know though, lots of people live next door to these ppl and never know

festi · 30/08/2011 00:09

move that is what i would do if im honest.

EarlyYearsProfessional · 30/08/2011 00:09

Thanks fishtank!
Yes thats the obvious answer but not a solution! I always watch my children whether they r my own or not! What Im saying is why should I and my children and everyone elses child have to live like prisoners coz of him. he could move to a city..why does he need to be in a family street where children play outside in bathing costumes in hot weather and run free between each others houses!

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PerryCombover · 30/08/2011 00:11

He will be on the sex offenders register and may have conditions that go with that.
Other than that I would remind your children of stranger policies.
He has to live somewhere. At least you know what his predilection is.

TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 30/08/2011 00:11

The paedophile you know about is not the dangerous one.

What do you do? Get on with your life. Take the same safety precautions you should always take with children, don't get hysterical.

Don't pretend that all is well, if you don't want to, there's no reason you should act like he's your new best friend, but he poses no danger, does he?

You have the information you need.

Which is more than you have for the unidentified paedophile that is likely also in your village.

festi · 30/08/2011 00:12

there are children in citys also who do those things you describe in an enid blyton style.

Kayano · 30/08/2011 00:13

There are children in cities you know. You can't have different rules for cities and villages? City children should PFC have
More risk? Wtf?

Birdsgottafly · 30/08/2011 00:13

In reality you have always had a man who enjoys looking at pornographic images of children, living in your village, you just didn't know about it.

Now you do, it is your job, as it always was, to safeguard children in your care.

If you want to check that he should be living there and have unsupervised acces, if he is, then you can contact the local police with your concerns and they will check, but will not information share with you.

His relationship with his children does not have to suffer for this whilst they are young.

Glitterknickaz · 30/08/2011 00:14

Would you rather you didn't know he was a paedophile? That he was completely under the radar?

That's far more of a risk.

lockets · 30/08/2011 00:15

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Birdsgottafly · 30/08/2011 00:15

Just to add he will be easier to monitor in a small village than in a city.

ShootinTheBreeze · 30/08/2011 00:16

What about those who live in cities with kids?

I think it's great you know he's there, you know not to let him anywhere near your kids. That's all you can do. He's served his time, he is as entitled as you to live wherever he chooses.

fishtankneedscleaning · 30/08/2011 00:17

He could move to a city?? Because, of course, children don't live in the city do they?? You are in a better position than most. At least you know you have a paedophile in your street. As you say you always keep your children within your sight, I cannot understand why you are asking how you should deal with it TBH.

worraliberty · 30/08/2011 00:18

The thing is you feel this way because you know about him

There could be way more people in your lovely little village viewing child porn right now...or abusing their kids right now.

This has been a wake up call. It doesn't matter where you live or who lives there...anyone anywhere could be doing what he was convicted of but undetected.

Therefore, you owe it to your kids to live your life in total normality and just keep you eye on them as you would if this man hadn't been detected and brought to justice.

worraliberty · 30/08/2011 00:21

he could move to a city..why does he need to be in a family street where children play outside in bathing costumes in hot weather and run free between each others houses!

Sorry but what the fuck?

Do you think 'village folk' and their families are more important than us mere city dwellers or something?

MillyR · 30/08/2011 00:22

I live in a village and there is a paedophile who was in prison, living next door to a family with children. He was sent to prison for assaulting a child. There are no doubt also paedophiles living here who we don't know about. It is the same everywhere.

There is nothing you can do about it.

LaurieFairyCake · 30/08/2011 00:23

Eh? How can he be deemed to be safe around his children?

Not likely with that 'conviction'.

Bollocks.

LaurieFairyCake · 30/08/2011 00:24

There is No Way with 16 months in jail and cat 5 offences this is true.

Kayano · 30/08/2011 00:24

Op lost a lot of support with the city/ family villages part :S
I live in the city and it Annoyed me too

pickgo · 30/08/2011 00:25

Birds His relationship with his children does not have to suffer for this whilst they are young.

Don't you think this is a mite naive? I'd fight tooth and nail for my dc not to have to see a man like this if he was the father of my DC. Surely a man who is sexually attracted to children and sees them as sexual objects is not a good influence on children?

OP - I'd check with the police what the terms are for his release. And seek their reassurance.

5GoMadOnAZ650 · 30/08/2011 00:26

I "know" a paedophile in my vicinity as I was warned by one of his victims who is now an adult (and who I believe 100% and it's been corroborated) all I can do is prevent my children from having any contact with him and be watchful about where they play and who is supervising.

bigbadtiger · 30/08/2011 00:26

Leaving aside your comment about city children
This man has always been there. Now he is known about and subject to whatever restrictions and supervision that the criminal justice system deems appropriate. Or would you rather drive him under the ground, and have him move somewhere where no-one knows him?

Birdsgottafly · 30/08/2011 00:28

Pickgo- i to advised the OP to contact the local police and share her concerns. I am not going to explain why he may not be a danger around his own children, the discussion is to complex for a internet forum.

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