It's like reading a terrible novel over and over again - the OP has lent brother/DP/SIL/DM/whoever a large sum of money that they haven't seen a penny of again. Recipient of said vast sum of money spends like a king and OP gets annoyed but 'doesn't know what to do' about the next request/demand/hint/whine for 'more help' for their 'struggling' charity case. AIBU to hide all these threads as they give me a overwhelming sense of wanting to throw something at the OP and tattoo 'do not lend money you can't afford to lose' and 'do not throw good money after bad' across their eyeballs?
I am aware that this is a pointless AIBU and a thread about several other threads [shrugs].
Yes and similarly some where someone (usually in family) makes some unreasonable request (I move into your house and you can live in garage, you sell your kidney to fund a weekend to Ibiza, I live with you rent free til 2013) and it takes 16 pages pf people saying just say no for message to get through for op to grow a pair..
Some people think that if they treat others with kindness/love then it will be reciprocated. To their cost they find out otherwise. I lent money to a good friend who would have been homeless had i not, she hasn't paid me back, and i know that she won't. The only good that has come out of it is that her DC's still have their home, so i comfort myself with that.
It isn't easy to say no to your DC's (grown up) or when there are children that are going to be badly affected. But i agree you should write it off and never lend again.