I've posted this in Parenting but it's a bit slow over there and I need a bit of advice!
I posted a few months ago about an issue I had with my son's creche. He's 3.10 and had been bitten about three times in two weeks by a particular child. I was concerned that it had happened so many times. He told me who did it and I spoke to the manager to ask what kind of procedure they had in these cases. She wasn't particularly helpful and got quite defensive.
However, DS hasn't been bitten since and he's generally happy in the creche so I let it be.
Today he was bitten again. My DH picked him up and was told there had been another incident. He said, 'oh I hope we're not going through this again!' or something to that effect. He was told that it was a different child that had bitten DS.
We later asked DS in a light-hearted way who had bitten him. He said, 'their name is 'I don't know''. We'd been joking about something similar recently so I didn't think much of it. Then, just before he went to bed, he told me he'd been bitten. I asked who did it and he said, 'I can't tell you'. I paused for a second and said, 'Did someone tell you not to tell me?' and straight away he said, 'Yes' and told me the name of a carer in the creche. He didn't pause or smirk or laugh. He was very serious and I believe him.
I'm absolutely furious. It's not the biting I'm worried about. I know young children do it and I thought it had been sorted out. It's the fact that this woman put my DS in the position of lying to me. He looked so worried. I just told him that if someone tells him not to tell me something that he should tell me because it's my job to keep him safe. I let it go at that. He still hasn't told me who bit him so he's obviously a bit torn about things.
I've persuaded DH to come with me to the creche in the morning to confront them.
Am I over-reacting? I'd love to know what other people would do? I feel like I want to take him out of the creche altogether although he's been happy there for so long. I'm starting college in a few weeks. He'll only be in creche three days but I need to know he's safe and happy. I don't have much time to find him somewhere else so I need to decide soon.
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WakeUpRosemary · 29/08/2011 21:19
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