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AIBU?

Or is he...?

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skinnydecaff · 29/08/2011 18:44

My DDs and their friends had a run in with a boy in our street which resulted in one girl getting soaked and my DD2 being hit. He is younger than them so when they came in and told me about it, I just told them to "fight their own battles".

Next thing they came back in and told me that the boy's dad had told them to piss off back to their own end of the street. I wandered up to find out what had happened and asked the guy if he had sworn at the girls.

I couldn't believe it when he pointed to the sleeve of his tee-shirt and drew my attention to the fact that it said POLICE. It was a very passive/aggressive gesture and I felt threatened. He denied saying "piss off" and said it was more than his job was worth.

I am angry on 2 counts - firstly there are 5 girls (12 to 8) saying that he told them to piss off, secondly this was meant to be 2 parents sorting out a squabble and not an interaction between a mum and a copper who was very keen to make me aware of what he does for a job.

AIBU or was he?

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TheFlyingOnion · 29/08/2011 18:47

You both are. It's playground stuff - leave it.

Deesus · 29/08/2011 18:48

Um, not sure. What did your girls do when they went out after you told them to fight their own battles? Did they do or say something?

If he did tell them to piss off though I agree that is unreasonable (whatever they said).

Also why was he wearing a police tshirt? I'm assuming he was off duty?

mankymink · 29/08/2011 18:50

Is it likely that the 5 girls were ganging up on the young boy? Perhaps the father, being protective as any father would be, got sick of it and intervened?

Of course it doesn't excuse the swearing, and the pointing out of his police shirt is a tad OTT. What, are you meant to be impressed and intimidated?

BimboNo5 · 29/08/2011 18:50

A police t shirt??

AgentZigzag · 29/08/2011 18:50

If it's how they said (and just because there was five of them doesn't necessarily mean that was exactly how it happened) he was definately in the wrong.

To swear at them, but also for telling them to go to their own end of the street, it's not his street, they can play where they want/allowed to!

I wouldn't be happy with him using his job in the police as a warning to you, but then again, it does point to him not being able to discuss anything by himself and he has to use the full force of the law to get some balls authority.

He'll be calling his mum on you next - you mark my words

mankymink · 29/08/2011 18:51

I know Bimbo, I want a police t-shirt now

Panzee · 29/08/2011 18:53

Have they reformed?

worraliberty · 29/08/2011 18:53

There's no way he should have sworn at them

I wonder if he was listening out and something the girls were saying/doing made him see red?

BimboNo5 · 29/08/2011 18:53

PMSL Panzee thats what I was thinking

GeneralCustardsHardHat · 29/08/2011 18:54

Since when have the plods worn t'shirts with "Police" on it?

Is he a closet Sting fan? :o

GeneralCustardsHardHat · 29/08/2011 18:54

Pah cross posted with panzee who nicked my joke.

bubblesincoffee · 29/08/2011 18:55

He's not supposed to wear any kind of uniform while he's not on duty.

If he wants to bring his job into what should be something between parents, I'd report him to his superior for blatantly lying and intimidating children.

DurhamDurham · 29/08/2011 18:55

May be it was a Police t-shirt as in Sting
My bil is a police officer and as far as I know he doesn't own a poice tshirt. He spends ages ironing white shirts.

I have two teen girls and the best piece of advice I was given was to stay out of fall outs/fights because children make up and play together but parents will still hate each other.

DurhamDurham · 29/08/2011 18:56

Generalcustard clearly a much quicker typer than me

Hatesponge · 29/08/2011 18:57

I think you should have kept out of it tbh. Sounds as though your children and their friends were making a nuisance of themselves with this younger boy, and his dad told them to get lost.

Not quite sure why they had to come and tell you either - when I was a child if I'd got told off by a neighbour the last thing I would have done was tell my parents, as I would have got told off by them as well!

I don't think them being told to piss off is that bad either - depends on how he said it. However I'm fairly relaxed about swearing.

vjg13 · 29/08/2011 18:59

I'm sure he isn't really a policeman. My very odd BIL has impersonated a police officer flashing a bus pass or something! These wierdos do exist.

MadameCastafiore · 29/08/2011 19:01

Not sure why you are more pissed off that someone said piss off when there had been physical violence that didn't really hit any nerves with you.

You can slap my kids and soak them but utter piss off in earshot and thats it am out with the rolling pin????????????

Panzee · 29/08/2011 19:01

GeneralCustardsHardHat are you going to call them to report me for theft? :o

skinnydecaff · 29/08/2011 19:01

It was a polo shirt with POLICE written on the sleeve. And he is a copper apparently, not an 80's music fan (tho I do wish I had had the quickwittedness to ask him where he'd seen them in concert!!)

His DSs are younger than my DDs but I have watched them 'play' and one in particular is very boistrous and aggressive from what I have seen.

I dont get involved in my kids' battles, that's why I told them to go and sort it out themselves, I only went out cos an adult was involved.

I am not particularly concerned with the child's behaviour, I am old enough and wise enough to know that kids fall out all the time, but I am seriously angry and threatened by the father's behaviour and attitude.

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worraliberty · 29/08/2011 19:04

I don't get how him pointing to his sleeve 'threatened' you?

skinnydecaff · 29/08/2011 19:04

Madame, of course I am concerned about the hitting - but I am more concerned about the conduct of the father who gave me the impression that because he's in the law, he's above it.

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skinnydecaff · 29/08/2011 19:05

worra it was very much a case of "do you know who I am". He didn't even say I am a policeman, of course I didn't say that. He eyeballed me and pointed to his clothing as if to say "watch it".

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skinnydecaff · 29/08/2011 19:06

My DDs and their friends we on my drive - it was the other kid who was at "someone elses end of the street", not mine.

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worraliberty · 29/08/2011 19:06

He denied saying "piss off" and said it was more than his job was worth

Surely that's the reason he pointed to his sleeve....to back up what he was saying

MadameCastafiore · 29/08/2011 19:07

Maybe he was just pointing at it to make you aware that he wouldn;t have sworn.

You told the kids to fight their own battles after hearing that they had been soaked and hit - how were you concerned about it - seems that you went outside when you heard about the swearing but not the violence.

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