I'm only 17 weeks pregnant and already stressed out about this issue.
For various reasons and if all goes well, our first baby will be born abroad in my home country. I (and DH for some of the time) will be staying with my father from 35 weeks til the new baby has a passport and we are both fit to travel back.
Now, DH has just had a call from his sister who wanted to know, especially for the grandparents, but also for the rest of the family which airport it was best to fly into for when they want to come and visit us to see the new baby. There has been talk before about all of them wanting to come after the birth.
I adore DH's grandparents BUT I can not see how this visit would work out at all. Yes, my dad has the additional space in the house so everyone could stay but he has a very stressful job and will not be able to look after any visitors, especially if they don't speak the language.
I assume I will be quite busy getting to grips with my first baby and breastfeeding, DH doesn't drive, so who will be entertaining all these guests???
I mean, a due date is just estimated, so how do they want to book flights now?
Also both DH and I are not getting on with his mother at all (she's very toxic), and having here there is really not an option. If we let the grandparents visit however, we won't get around his mum and sisters as well. That's 5 extra people we're talking about!
How can I ,without hurting the grandparents, explain, that it would be better if they just waited those 3 weeks after the birth til we are back in the UK? I don't want to push them away, it's their first great-grandchild but seriously...
What will I say?
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How to be diplomatic about DH's family coming to visit new baby
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MrsHuxtable · 29/08/2011 17:30
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